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about next door?

41 replies

AttillaTheMum · 03/01/2011 16:54

We have been in our new house for four months now, two things really bother me about next door.

1- They have a large husky (its not a very big house) this dog is rarely taken for a walk and spends about 4 hours a day howling as he is locked inside.

2- The parents really do not get on well, they are constantly screaming at eachother and it sometimes spills into the street. The thing that bothers me, is every night you can heat the little girl (about 3/4?) crying loudly. I'm not sayin she is being abused or anything but this can't be normal!

WWYD?

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IAmReallyFabNow · 03/01/2011 16:55

Try and make friends with the mum.

mutznutz · 03/01/2011 16:57

what time of night is the child crying?

cocoachannel · 03/01/2011 16:59

Befriend them. Try and find out what they're like in reality.

hottiemamma · 03/01/2011 17:00

Befriend them for why? They might be a pair of complete nutters and OP will end up embroiled in something she really doesn't want.
Unsure? Call SS. That really is the end of.

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AttillaTheMum · 03/01/2011 17:01

I have met the mum briefly, in those ten minutes she told me she had to go to court the next week for a restraining order and her DP had just lost his driving licence. I didn't want to put this in the OP as I didn't want to paint a picture of a chavvy family.

The little girl was crying at 11pm last night

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hottiemamma · 03/01/2011 17:02

If they are a chavvy family then it's no crime to paint them as such. They sound ghastly to me.

NotANaturalGeordie · 03/01/2011 17:02

You could report them to the RSPCA regarding the dog - that does sound unfair. Is the little girl crying in response to the shouting (can you tell?) and if the noise is constant you can report to the local council. Good luck, nasty neightbours are a nightmare xx

mutznutz · 03/01/2011 17:02

Well you are coming across as a bit judgemental lol...but is the crying at regular times every night?

Some kids that age play up...it's a fact.

goldenbirdies · 03/01/2011 17:03

Restraining order against who?

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AttillaTheMum · 03/01/2011 17:05

The crying is at random times, in the daytime too but it is impossable to tell if it is because of the rowing.

I hope i'm not coming across as judgemental, but it's hard not to be when you can't go into your garden without hearing them screaming and swearing at eachother!

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TheCrackFox · 03/01/2011 17:06

My DS1 used to cry every night, for years because he had night terrors. These are very upsetting nightmares where children are inconsolable. Although, TBH, it is far more upsetting for the parents as no amount of cuddles seems to help.

hottiemamma · 03/01/2011 17:08

I can't for the life of me understand what's wrong with being judgemental. We all are, all day and every day. It's part of the preservation instinct in us. Do away with the capacity to judge a situation and you'd might as well stay home by yourself for the rest of eternity.

conniedescending · 03/01/2011 17:08

how do you know the dog isnt walked much?

our dog is usually walked v v early or quite late at night.

oh and our kids cry

hmmm maybe it is me?

mutznutz · 03/01/2011 17:08

It's hard to know what to say really. Dogs do fret when their owners are out and small children do cry.

On the other hand there could be something wrong, but unless you make their lives your business...you're unlikely to find out?

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AttillaTheMum · 03/01/2011 17:13

restraining order against her MIL.

Every time I have seen them out with the dog it is between 6-7. I can hear the dog crying, or see it in the back garden all day so i know it isnt being walked.

My DD cries too but this is every day, she sounds distraught.

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mutznutz · 03/01/2011 17:15

Don't all kids sound distraught when they cry? And as for the dog, perhaps it's also walked at dawn?

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AttillaTheMum · 03/01/2011 17:15

Maybe,

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mutznutz · 03/01/2011 17:16

And I just don't know what's chavvy about losing your licence or having to take a restraining order out against someone? Confused

tyler80 · 03/01/2011 17:16

The dog howling can be reported to environmental health if the noise is a nuisance

curlymama · 03/01/2011 17:24

I think the combination of telling someone you have only just met that you are getting a restraining order against your MiL, that your DH has just lost his licence and regularly screaming and swearing so that your neighbours can hear you, is a bit chavvy really.

conniedescending · 03/01/2011 17:27

and just because a family is so called chavvy doesn't mean they are abusive to kids and animals

TheMonster · 03/01/2011 17:28

Our neighbour reported us to the SS saying that our dogs were dangerous because we never walked them. The social worker who then rang us was most apologetic and said she understood is was a silly complaint because how on earth could the neighbour know how often we walk our dogs unless he is glued to the window 24/7.
We walk our dogs every day. They are not dangerous. DS is in no danger from the dogs (or anything else).
Please don't jump to conclusions about the dog being walked.

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AttillaTheMum · 03/01/2011 17:30

I'm not, i'm complaining about it crying for HOURS on end, locked in the house.

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TheMonster · 03/01/2011 17:32

But you said he is rarely taken for a walk.

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AttillaTheMum · 03/01/2011 17:35

i am guessing that is one of the reasons he is crying which results in ---

spends about 4 hours a day howling as he is locked inside.

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