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about next door?

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AttillaTheMum · 03/01/2011 16:54

We have been in our new house for four months now, two things really bother me about next door.

1- They have a large husky (its not a very big house) this dog is rarely taken for a walk and spends about 4 hours a day howling as he is locked inside.

2- The parents really do not get on well, they are constantly screaming at eachother and it sometimes spills into the street. The thing that bothers me, is every night you can heat the little girl (about 3/4?) crying loudly. I'm not sayin she is being abused or anything but this can't be normal!

WWYD?

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conniedescending · 03/01/2011 17:37

4 hours is reasonable amount to leave a dog alone imo

my neighbours dog used to howl when they left the house. She didn't realise and was really embarrassed about it when I mentionned it - started to leave radio on for it and problem solved.

goldenbirdies · 03/01/2011 17:38

I think this type of situation is hard to assess unless you're on the spot. Are there any other neighbours you can talk to about it?

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AttillaTheMum · 03/01/2011 17:39

they are out for a long time, they both work FT. its about 4 hrs a day he cries for

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Ray81 · 03/01/2011 17:40

I had this problem with my dog she would cry when indoors if we were out and if we put her outside in the Run with have which is very long and wide btw she would bark. Our neighbours called envirnomental health and we were threated with a noise abantment order which meant we could be fined up to £500 everytime it was breached ie she barked or cried. In the end we had no choice but to rehome her as there was nothing we could do she needed almost constant human attention. she did go to my sister in law who works on a farm and she goes to work with her every day. It was the best thing we did (for the dog) as she is so much happier now she is with someone all day. we did walk her too but were accused of not walking her.

if the dog noise is realy bad then phone environmental health they will look into it, also the rspca if you are SURE the dog is not being walked.

As for the little girl you canot be sure why she is crying as most children do cry at all times of day and night. Can understand your concern though. I have a freind whos little one screams and you can hear her down the rd even though her windows are closed i can suure you she isnt abused in any way just pushing the boundaries.

mutznutz · 03/01/2011 17:40

For all I know my well walked dog could howl when I leave the house...if no-one's told me, I'm not going to know am I?

My kids cry too...at various times of the day and night.

Have you mentioned the dog or the crying child to them?

TheMonster · 03/01/2011 17:42

We both work full time and have 3 dogs in the house (and it's hardly a mansion), but as far as I know mine don't cry when they are left, although there is the odd bark-fest. It's detached though so it doesn't really bother anyone.
I would hope, though, that a neighbour would tell me if there was a problem so I could sort it out. Maybe they are completely unaware of it?

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AttillaTheMum · 03/01/2011 17:45

they are aware apparently... the neighbour on the other side is friends with DH and said they were spoken to about it a year ago.

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mutznutz · 03/01/2011 17:48

Then perhaps it's your turn to speak up now?

hairyfairylights · 03/01/2011 17:53

I think the combination of telling someone you have only just met that you are getting a restraining order against your MiL, that your DH has just lost his licence and regularly screaming and swearing so that your neighbours can hear you, is quite possibly a cry for help.

DooinMeCleanin · 03/01/2011 17:54

My neighbours rarely see me walk my dogs as it's often early morning and late night. I hope they don't think they are locked up all day.

Dd1 used to howl and howl and howl at night for no apparent reason. It was quite distressing to hear, we were always sat with her, holding her, but I doubt you'd have known that from listening through a wall. It had no effect on the level of her crying, she'd even howl for "mummy" when she was sat in my arms.

But by all means report the barking if it is that bad. If the dog is being left more than it should be, or not walked as it should be, the threat of a fine might give them a kick up the arse.

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AttillaTheMum · 03/01/2011 17:56

I think I described this badly ,the restraining order was AGAINST the neighbour, from her MIL.

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curlymama · 03/01/2011 17:56

Really? Someone who had moved in next door and you were meeting for the first time? For help with what exactly?

mutznutz · 03/01/2011 18:00

Ok, what does the restraining order and possible chavness have to do with the two important issues of the child crying and the dog howling?

Unless you want to spend your time sitting in judgement on people you hardly know, you're probably better off phoning the relevant authorities (if you're really that worried) and then moving on with your life.

AttilaTheMum · 03/01/2011 18:08

The OP is not me, by the way.....

(The original AttilaTheMum)

spikeycow · 03/01/2011 18:09

So they row in the street. Nothing to do with class.
They leave their dog in the garden howling and don't walk it. They are idiots and cruel. Not chavvy
Their child cries. Not chavvy
If you are going to stereotype do it accurately

TheMonster · 03/01/2011 21:00

But she can't be sure that the dog is never walked, surely.
AttilaTheMum, that's a coincidence.

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