...to eBay something I was given on Freecycle?

[quandry]

My Mum's freezer stopped working and I asked on freecycle if anyone had one we could borrow/have to tide her over until she got a new one.

A man offered us one, saying he was just about to freecycle it when he saw my request.
Said we could have it, and could we freecycle it after we'd finished with it.

Mum now has her new one, so we need to get rid of the temporary one. Thing is, it's actually in really good condition - only about 18 months old, and I reckon I could get at least £80 for it on eBay.

I can't decide if it would be 'wrong' to eBay it. After all, when we picked it up the man said we were 'doing him a favour' by taking it away...

I can't decide... £80 would certainly be useful after Christmas!

yabu, it was given on the condition that you would freecycle it back to someone who needs it when you no longer do.

Yabu...he said to freecycle it. You benefited from his generosity and have to pass thatkindness on now.

YABU put it back on freecycle or some charity that helps disadvantaged people starting out.

put it back on freecycle.

Normally I would say go for it but he specifically asked you to freecycle it. I would feel guilty selling it under those circumstances.

I think you should put it back on freecycle for someone else that might need it.

you should freecycle it again, after all that is what you agreed to do isn't it?

but you know this is what you should do don't you?

YABU by asking here

Put it back on Freecycle - you were quite happy to take it for nothing.

freecycle it again, i couldnt do that.

YABU. You accepted it on the condition that you'd put it on Freecycle,once you were finished with it.

Freecycle it, definitely.

Sharkslayer- when you gave away the dress, did you know what they wanted it for? Did you specify that you didn't want it to be sold on? If the previous owner said he wanted it to be freecycled again, it's only fair to do that.

I do think it's a bit cheeky and against the spirit of Freecycle to get things for free and then sell them for profit...

My husband and I use Freecycle both ways - we have benefitted from people's generosity in obtaining a cot and Moses basket which have been extremely useful with DS1.

However we have reciprocated in donating gym equipment and working kitchen appliances which we can no longer use.

I do hope that the people who picked up our donated items are using them for personal use [or have passed them on for free] although I realise I have no control over this and am ultimately just grateful that they took them off my hands and helped me declutter.

So can't really decide if YABU or YANBU...

I guess that is a question for you and your conscience

yabu.

You should offer it on Freecycle first. If no takers, I would contact the man and say you want to eBay it and offer to split the proceeds with him. In all likelihood he will not be fussed but you should abide by the spirit of Freecyle and indeed his specific request in this case.

He didn't say putting it on Freecycle again was a condition as such - rather it was a sort of throw away line as we collected it...
e.g.

"Glad to get rid of it.. you're doing me a favour"
"Glad it's going to be used... perhaps you can pass it on or freecycle it again when you're finished"
That sort of thing...

I also give a lot of stuff away on freecycle, and have learnt that there are some real liars on there. We gave away 2 huge boxes of baby toys to someone who said they were a young couple, both unemployed, with a second baby on the way. The bloke who collected them was supposedly a helpful 'uncle'. Bizarrely we then saw him selling the whole lot at a car boot sale a week later. I was livid, and was all for confronting him, but DH said just to leave it, and learn from it!

This feels different. The bloke really wasn't adament I had to freecycle - it was more of a suggestion I guess.

Mum is 79 and her pension doesn't go far. She has mild dementia, and lives alone. In that sense she is as 'needy' as the next person?

I also don't want to have to keep going to hers to wait in for a whole bunch of 'no-shows' if we freecycle it? At least if we sell it, the person is more likely to turn up at the pre-arranged time?

Ebay it.

It's not his fridge any more, it's your fridge, to do with as you please.

Pass it on or freecycle it - then I'd ebay it. Passing on doesn't necessarily mean for free, and you'd still be giving someone a bargain compared to a full price one.

now YABVU by enhancing your story to suit your (already made) decision

give it away, there are still people in need out here, without playing 'top trumps' on their needs

[cats bum face]

Well.....I think, you took it off the man's hands, which helped him. I think it's entirely up to you what you do with it next. eBay or whatever. It's not really up to the 'giver' to tell you what go do with it once you've finished. You did him a big favour by taking it, you both benefitted - and that's life!