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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To wonder if anyone has ever been caught out by their AIBU

45 replies

Silver1 · 02/01/2011 01:17

I am just wondering what are the chances that the person you are describing reads these boards? We praise, whinge whine etc about your best mate, butcher, bridezilla relations someone must have been caught out at some time.
Do you ever worry before posting that you might be recognized?

OP posts:
smoggii · 02/01/2011 01:24

I told my best friend I didn't want a baby shower, then on a forum (not this one) someone asked for good ideas for a baby shower, i made some suggestions. Another friend told my bestie that it was obviously i really did want one and that she wasn't doing her duty as a best friend if she didn't hold one for me. Fortunately she checked with me again, i explained i definitely didn't want one (I hate being the centre of attention and can think of nothing worse) I just had ideas what i would do for others if i was holding one.

It made me realise i do have to be careful about what i post on sites like this now that I have pregnant friends lol!

nilbymaaf · 02/01/2011 01:27

ooh what have you posted about before on here?
I don't know, I don't think the posts on here are really whinge fests. They are more about whether or not the poster is entitled to feel aggrieved.

I don't think there is a risk of the defendant discovering the post. I have never noticed one about me Confused anyway.

JaneS · 02/01/2011 01:35

Yes, I have.

I bitched about something rather specific to do with my wedding, knowing that my family were highly unlikely to read MN.

Sadly, someone who knows our priest used to (no longer, I'm told!).

If you search under my name and come across a thread titled something like 'AIBU to be angry with this f*ing priest', you'll know why I cringed when I found out.

Memoo · 02/01/2011 01:35

My moaning is usually about random strangers anyway

Binfullofmaggotsonthe45 · 02/01/2011 01:44

I think so, I posted about a mum at dc's school forcing her child on my child to be friends.

On the Monday at school she didn't speak to me, and so it continued. Couldn't have been any other reason really. Blush

Katey1010 · 02/01/2011 02:33

Imagine the pom bear people must know... They are famous now.

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 02/01/2011 03:03

So how did your wedding pan out, LittleRedDragon? I've just read the thread you mentioned; I trust it was the RO priest who was told about the thread? Hope it shamed him!

YunoYurbubson · 02/01/2011 03:21

I hope not. I alwaysbtry and change details though.

BreastmilkDoesAFabEggnogLatte · 02/01/2011 04:49

I've been badly, badly caught out on netmums. So much so that I daren't even go onto the site with this IP address. Serves me right for using my real name when it's so distinctive.

MsKLo · 02/01/2011 08:24

Tell us breastmilk! what did you say?!

OldAndUngraceful · 02/01/2011 08:28

I must admit I am completely paranoid about being outed

kreecherlivesupstairs · 02/01/2011 09:44

Never. Luckily I don't live in the UK. When we do move back (probably around July) I will have to name change.

InterruptingCow · 02/01/2011 09:47

I was caught out complaining about some people who let their children make a mess in a restaurant. Turned out one of them was a MNetter and saw my post. I was very embarrassed!

snoozysheep · 02/01/2011 09:50

Ooh, interrupting, was that the Pizza Express one? The MNer in question said you wildly exaggerated didn't she? Said you said she didn't leave a tip or clean up when she did, didn't she? Is that the one?

What's your side on that one? I've read hers before you see!

RoadCraftGuru · 02/01/2011 09:51

I remember that Interrupting. Wasn't it to do with the value of the tip as well?

Still think you had a point about the mess tbh...

FrameyMcFrame · 02/01/2011 09:52

Me!
I posted AIBU to tell my ex that I keep having sexy dreams about him. I got thoroughly flamed on here and told I was BVU then my DP read the thread!
Needless to say he was very upset, but it helped us in the end to have a proper talk about my unresolved feelings for my ex and the MC I had with him.

BreastmilkDoesAFabEggnogLatte · 02/01/2011 09:52

I was just having a very bad day and was ranting a bit, and the mods tracked me down in RL. To be fair, they quickly and graciously accepted they'd misread and misunderstood my post, but I'm still giving netmums a clear berth..

InterruptingCow · 02/01/2011 09:54

That's the one, Snoozy! You've got a good memory. That was years ago!!! To be fair to her, they had little kids in highchairs who do tend to drop food. However, they dropped a LOT of food and didn't make any effort to clear it up (or at least I didn't see them). It was the waitress who cleared up after they left that said they didn't leave a tip but the lady said on here that she did.

RoadCraftGuru · 02/01/2011 09:54

Breastmilk, they tracked you down?! Xmas Shock

TheSecondComing · 02/01/2011 10:09

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swanandduck · 02/01/2011 10:13

If I'm posting about someone I know I always change a slight detail to cover my tracks. Hope it always works!!

RueLaChesty · 02/01/2011 10:26

i'm always worried as i have moaned about ils in past but now two sils are pregnant i worry they'll catch me
out.

Decided to name change from something that was too obvious. Although i might need to namechange again as it might still be obvious!

But, never been caught out yet! :)

JamieLeeCurtis · 02/01/2011 10:29

I don't post about friends, and I don't think anyone could guess who I am (I am not Jamie Lee Curtis)

ragged · 02/01/2011 11:45

Not on MN... but I was on a "Expecting Month X" antenatal email list (we did not have a confidentiality clause). When our babies were about 8 months old one of the other mothers switched her child to a speciialist formula because proteins in breastmilk were "undigestible".

I asked on misc.kids.breastfeeding (Usenet) if antibiotics could have caused the baby's weight gain problems instead, and if breastmilk proteins could be truly undigestible. It turns out they can (although it's very rare, and baby didn't present in a classic way at all). That should have been the end of it. I gave very few details, otherwise -- nothing you would recognise unless you were also on that Email list.

But the mother of said child saw my query and went Nuclear. I had a slew of private supportive emails after that, though, from others who thought she was off her rocker over-reacting.

tulpe · 02/01/2011 11:55

A "friend" in RL once posted on AIBU about me - complaining about how I had allegedly let her down.

I would have been very annoyed but the consensus was that she was BU so I let it go :o

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