To wonder if anyone has ever been caught out by their AIBU

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I am just wondering what are the chances that the person you are describing reads these boards? We praise, whinge whine etc about your best mate, butcher, bridezilla relations someone must have been caught out at some time.
Do you ever worry before posting that you might be recognized?

Absolutely, GiddyPickle - I do still occasionally think about mentioning it to her (in person, not on MN) but don't think it would achieve anything to be honest.

Tulpe, I am dying to see that thread!

I agree Sugarpinkmouse- I do sometimes read things on here and wonder if the offending party is reading it too.
I am off to read the priest thread now

Link to the priest thread please

I do wonder about this too - but mostly my friends claim they don't use MN. And mostly I don't complain about them, although I do sometimes use details about their experiences to help others with information. When I do that, I keep it very general and sometimes change bits to prevent ID.

And then if it really is personal I namechange.

Sugar, I remember that one as well, I can't remember the exact details of it, but I do recall thinking at the time that the OP wasn't hiding herself very well. It wouldn't have been difficult (and evidently wasn't) to identify yourself if you'd had involvement in the situation.

I was not caught out, but I did leave a lot of personal information about someone last year, this time. It was a very difficult situation for me and to get the help I wanted, I felt I had to give quite a lot of detail. It got to the point where the other person was clearly identifiable, so I asked for the thread to be deleted and it was.

I now know that that person does use MN and I would be devestated if she had ever found out.

Link to the priest thread please!!

Link to Pizza Express anyone? Or has the thread gone forever? TIA!

sparkly, you may be disappointed I'm afraid - the priest/priest's wife/friend didn't comment on the thread. However, it's here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/999026-to-be-absolutely-fucking-FURIOUS-with-this-priest

I wasn't very polite about the priest.

oldlady - Perhaps not too surprisingly, the priest was pretty awful. Basically I wanted to know the content of the service as I didn't want to agree to anything that's against my beliefs. He lied to us, and I ended up standing in church hearing the most sexist shite applied to me. He also made an extremely rude speech to our guests, and I do wish I'd turned around and contradicted him. He'd been asked to tell everyone they were welcome to sit down if they needed to (as several of my relatives are not very well and can't stand for long periods), but instead he told everyone it was considered rude to sit down during the service. Unsurprisingly, my brother's girlfriend fainted.

Mind you, though the service was immensely sexist it did please my beloved MIL, and parts of it were beautiful and very moving, so I've made my peace. And as soon as we got to the church door, my friends and my lovely supervisor all gathered round to say encouraging things, so it was ok. And I had a gorgeously supportive, friendly and non-sexist reception.

If the priest/priest's friend is reading this: I'm afraid I was cross and you were rude. You've still not apologized, and we know that the bishop thinks you were in the wrong. I know my language was not respectful, but respect has to be earned.

There wS a thread today that's been pulled now.
Someone complaining about their childminder and the childminder came on to defend herself.

Applauds LRD. There was no call/justification for any of that behaviour.

LRD, glad you're not feeling the priest completely ruined your day. Even if he is a sexist fuckwit. :)

In all honesty, if I could nominate my own thread for thread of the year, I would nominate that one. I was in a real state and you were so helpful - I particularly remember one of katisha's posts when I was in tears and thinking I'd completely fucked up. I read it and I felt just that bit less silly and alone.

It really makes me think, if people will take the time to give practical advice and encouragement on something like that thread (which was after all about something happy and positive - a wedding!), then I know I would be able to find support here if anything really bad happened.

Ahem.

Sentimental rant in support of MN over now, let's get back to the good stuff!

Yep - DH busted me when I was having a moan about his behaviour a few days ago - then went on to reag every other thread I've ever posted on.

Have name changed now.

Luckily nothing was too incriminating....

If anyone in RL asks if I go on Mumsnet, I look blank and deny all knowledge!

I've only posted one AIBU which could easily have been recognised, but I knew I wasn't BU so didn't care too much if I was outed.

LRD I sometimes read threads on here and thin I hope the offending party is reading this, having read your thread I am glad the offending party got wind and has hopefully changed tack a bit