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to think that posting pics of massive piles

109 replies

narna · 01/01/2011 18:00

of your children's Christmas presents on facebook is incredibly naff?
I mean why would you do that?
Why would you think that any of your friends are interested?
Dont get me wrong its lovely to see pics of kids opening them all excited on Christmas morning but who the hell wants to see a picture of a massive pile of presents?

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BaroqinAroundTheChristmasTree · 01/01/2011 20:02

well I posted mine because I have no-one else to share Christmas with. Had no visitors over Christmas/New Year, (though this year for the first time in memory at this time of year DS's and I were invited to a friends house earlier this week for a small party) and thankfully some of the people I have on my FB are interested enough to look at some of my photos and comment on them so it doesn't feel quite so lonely.

Those that don't want to look.......well they don't - and tbh it doesn't bother me in the slightest. And afaik they don't go around slagging me off for posting them.

herbietea · 01/01/2011 20:13

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kuckingfunt · 01/01/2011 20:13

Baroqin, I loved looking at your pictures of Christmas and the boys with their presents.

herbietea · 01/01/2011 20:14

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kuckingfunt · 01/01/2011 20:16

ha ha herbietea - I agree, the faces on the boys was lovely to see, it didn't even cross my mind that it could be crass or bragging. Fgs, they are children and if they don't deserve to have nice treats at Christmas then something is wrong.

BaroqinAroundTheChristmasTree · 01/01/2011 20:17

Actually I'm glad I bored most of my friends rigid on FB with 3 albums of holidays photos - at the end of an amazing 2 weeks (where I had uploaded photos every single night) I lost my camera - with all my holday photos on it.

Those ones on FB are the only visual record I have - thank f*ck for my obsession with posting photos of anything and everything on FB.

(which reminds me at some point this year I must download them all onto my computer so I have a "hard" copy of them as well.

BaroqinAroundTheChristmasTree · 01/01/2011 20:19

haha - x posted with 2 MNers on my FB who appear to regularly peruse boring snapshops of my life Xmas Grin

So OP - if you think I'm naff -

stoppinchingthedummy · 01/01/2011 20:20

I love buying gifts for people that i love - i dont mind that i dont recieve many now i have children either - i suppose each to their own but i think when your dd goes to school and gets asked "what did you get for xmas" and she replies her "2" things she might feel a bit sad that her friends got lots more......However there is a limit ,a girl i know -her dh went out on boxing day and bought their 4 year old

AN IPAD!!! WTF!!!

tingletangle · 01/01/2011 20:30

But Sarah that is the point we don't turn them down because she does not get them in the first place. After a christmas when dd was give far too many presents and we knew people were struggling financially we discussed with our families a different way if celebrating Christmas. For years Christmas had been about presents and not about family or faith . One grandparent wanted to carry on giving a present do she did. The other members of the family suggested giving dd an alternative present rather than something she would open. This seemed rather apt as dd gets lots if material stuff from her father and it bores her. I have also been seriously ill and Dh was caring for me and elderly parents . It all seemed to fit and it has grown from there. My sister suggested this year that rather than all do things individually we all choose someone and give them a gift of our time and skills.

I am going to stop posting on here now as I have been told that I am being slagged off on facebook and that certainly is not on the spirit of Christmas.

BaroqinAroundTheChristmasTree · 01/01/2011 20:33

" For years Christmas had been about presents and not about family or faith"

Well Christmas is for me

Firstly - about faith
Secondly - about family (that's me and my DS's)
Thirdly - about exchanging gifts and seeing happy smiling children.

tingletangle · 01/01/2011 20:35

Stopping that is something we have thought about although in my experience kids tend to "brag " about their main present. So dd gets to do that.

I accept it is easier to give less when you are economically well off which we are.

Anyway dd will be home soon and as I said u am leaving this thread. I find that if a thread upsets you, you should walk away. The point if mumsnet us that it should be fun.

PatTheHammer · 01/01/2011 20:36

Read this thraed and all I want to do is see Baroqin's photos now, sounds like you had a lovely ChristmasGrin

I love looking at my friend and family's Xmas photos, some people don't I get that. I don't judge or think its naff because generally most people on my FB I genuinly like or respect, otherwise I wouldn't be friends noConfused?

SarahStrattonsBaubles · 01/01/2011 20:38

You are being slagged off on FB or someone is telling you on FB that you are being slagged off on here?

If it's the former that's nothing to do with here. If it's the latter, this is AIBU and you can't expect everyone to agree with you.

Especially when you're wrong

Actually stoppin has a very fair point.

NewYearNewSolo · 01/01/2011 20:45

If you are talking about Baroquin OP, then YABU. If however, you are really talking about a MASSIVE pile of presents, then YANBU.

I think in Baroquins case, you are talking about a very modest 'pile' of presents and therefore, YABVU.

BaroqinAroundTheChristmasTree · 01/01/2011 20:46
moosemama · 01/01/2011 20:47

Different strokes for different folks.

Christmas means different things to different people and they are all entitled to enjoy Christmas their own way - for their own reasons.

As for the FB pics, I'm not on FB, personal choice, but I wouldn't be/am not offended by other peoples' pictures.

Why does everything have to be read into and/or judged? Can't some things just be?

Happy New Year!

NewYearNewSolo · 01/01/2011 20:49

I hope you don't mind Baroquin (love the new name btw), but I thought your thank you thread with link was lovely and here if anyone wants to actually see how modest this large pile of presents was then...

NewYearNewSolo · 01/01/2011 20:50

And that's really sad that you felt the need to take it off :(

BaroqinAroundTheChristmasTree · 01/01/2011 20:53

take what off Confused

NewYearNewSolo · 01/01/2011 20:56

I looked for your link and it is 'unavailable' apparently.

Original poster
narna · 01/01/2011 20:57

I am talking about some of my friends on facebook who posted pictures of huge piles of presents because to me it looks like bragging and showing off as if more presents mean they are somehow better parents or love their kids more.
I am very sorry if my thread offended anyone as that was not my intention.

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SarahStrattonsBaubles · 01/01/2011 20:57

Awww your boys are absolutely beautiful Baroqin Xmas Smile

Moosemama saying that anything above 2 or 3 presents in total is consumerism is being judgey in itself. I bloody hate it when all this consumerism shite is bandied about. WTF is wrong with just enjoying life and being grateful for what one has ffs. Especially when that poster then goes on to say they are economically well off.

Life is snort. FFS enjoy it. Or move to Korea or something.

BaroqinAroundTheChristmasTree · 01/01/2011 20:58

how odd Solo - I just clicked through from the thread and it worked Confused

moosemama · 01/01/2011 21:00

Sarah, I don't disagree. I just don't like the judging in either direction.

I know its not the done thing to think these days and probably marks me out as an old fuddy duddy, but I just wish people could live and let live a bit more and judge a lot less.

As you said, life is too short.

NewYearNewSolo · 01/01/2011 21:01

Re post on right thread>>>

S'ok! my Dss FB was signed in, so I couldn't see it! Sorry