To want to put dh in his own room instead of ds?

[TheMeow]

DS and I sleep fine together in the same room. He still wakes up a couple of times in the night but it's ok because his cot is right up against the side of my bed so I don't actually have to get out of bed.

However, as soon as dh comes to bed he starts sniffing, scratching, coughing, blowing his nose, rustling the covers, plumping the pillows, turning over... so of course eventually he wakes ds up.

So when ds is six months old AIBU if I move dh into his own room instead? :o I don't think he'd like it much so it there a no cry sleep solution for men?

(Of course this has absolutely nothing to do with me not wanting to get out of bed in the middle of the night to sort ds out if he was in his own room.)

start going to bed while he's in the middle of watching something manly. Then, if he';s anything like mine, he'll fall asleep on the sofa. Problem solved.

YANBU. I have done this. I share a bed with 7mo DD and DH is in the spare room. It's bliss. DH has announced that he's moving back in tho, so my joy may be short-lived.

Ahhhh....that sounds so lovely...I have tried dropping hints that it would be the best solution...but to no avail.

If only DD had a nice big room where we could fit a Double bed in with a single so I could sleep in there and keep DH in 'our room'.

What you need is a toddler who won't sleep without company: DH sleeps in the spare bed in toddler's room; you get the (well behaved) baby. Works fine in our house

Your marriage/relationship your choice. DS2 was moved into his own room at 4 weeks. I'd rather share a room with my husband than a baby.

I'm guessing your DH doesn't snore like a drill, MumNWLondon??? Altho hopefully my DH won't for much longer either as he has a hospital appointment to sort it AT LAST.

MumNWLondon - Or your husband isn't a hairy ape whose body temperature is 30 degrees above yours when you sleep, who hogs the blankets, who snores and farts all night long, pushes you either off the bed or against the cold wall into the crack and does not allow you to get very many decent nights sleep?

I would love my own bed. My grandparents slept in separate beds their entire marriage (still married after 40 years), they really have got that right.

I have been with dh over 10 years. Both our sleep and sex life improved when He slept in his own room, this is a temporary arrangement that has lasted 7 years so far

No, we have a 6 foot bed. It actually zips apart into 2 separate beds, but I am happy to share it with him we each have our own space. We also have super king size duvet, too big to hog!

He snores when on his front I just have to kick him to roll over.

My baby though snuffles and makes baby noises all night. And not much space in our room due to massive bed - was a bit tight with a crib in too.

I also sleep separately than my DH, the snoring has been replaced by a sleep apnoea maching that blows cold air on you, horrible!

BecauseItoldYouSo my dh makes the bed too hot too, luckily he doesn't snore or fart is that something that they grow into I wonder :o

My dh has a princess bed in the toy room downstairs that he sleeps in because of his snoring and sweating :)

DD1 has a double bed in her room and I share a king size bed with my baby, It works for us. And like others our sex life is fine because we all have a decent nights sleep. It just gets a bit embvarassing when dd is playing in her toyroom and tells her friends thats daddys bed lol

I favour the cry it out method with husbands. If he starts and you know he's been fed and his arse is clean, just pop your head round the door and say "Bedtime now you silly man" in a calm voice.

Don't let him have the light on either, nightlights just encourage them to play with themselves imo.

yanbu!

dh sleeps in our bed with ds and i sleep in the spare room with dd. i don't miss dhs 'last gasp' breathing, furnace body heat, chemical warfare farts, bed hogging and stinky breath.

i think the aristocracy had it right with separate boudoirs.

i don't think i can ever go back, even when dd is in her own room.

wimple

Pmsl here I nearly dropped my phone in the bath from laughing so much

My DH does the "last gasp" breathing too Bamboo! What IS that anyway!?

Do you often MN in the bath Honey?

pmsl @ wimple!

Ha ha no much worse, I was supervising the Dcs whilst sat on the bath edge. I obviously had my phone to hand for emergencies and it just happened to switch itself to mumsnet ...... Honest guv

I shoved dh into the spare room as well about 2yrs ago after 14yrs of putting up with the snoring and flying elbows, best decision I've ever made IMHO. We r both much happier and calmer now we both get a decent Nights sleep.

mjinsparklystockings super king size beds are the best. Although the DC never actually sleep with us, room for us and all three DCs really quite comfortably....

Ha, DD is 9, and likes to sleep in my bed with me, except she hates my wheezing, and turning over, and mumbling.
I tell her to sod off and get in her own bed if she doesn't like it!

Surely your DH can have his (your?) bed where he is free to scratch?