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to think its rude (and a little bizarre) behaviour?

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rocketleaf · 01/01/2011 10:55

Last night we were having an impromptu gathering of 3 friends plus DH and myself as our previous NYE plans had fallen through in the morning. Yesterday afternoon, another couple who we haven't seen for ages popped round for a cuppa, when I was obviously in the middle of prepping food. I asked them what they were doing for NYE, they said not much, indicating their shopping bags, cooking a meal and chilling so I rather impulsively asked them if they wanted to come to ours as I had probably bought too much food for the 5 of us. I made it clear that we were also going to have a fairly quiet one as I am pregnant and so was one of the other guests.

Anyway by half 11 we had realised they wernt going to come, which was fine, the 5 of us were having a lovely time and it prob would have spoiled the dynamic so we were getting our fizzy drinks sorted to make the toast when at 11.45 the door bell rang and it was them.

They immediately dragged me off into the kitchen to tell me they had got engaged. Of course I was over the moon for them but had to cut them off as wanted to make sure everyone had full glasses for NYE at which point we all piled outside to ring in the new year. As they hadn't been introduced to the others before the chimes so it was all a bit awkward.

We then went inside where they explained they were late because they had been finishing season 2 of BSG Hmm then proceeded to talk at great length about BSG (which I have already seen and the other guests hadnt) about how unconventional their wedding was going to be, an anecdote about how they had to go to Mothercare to buy ELC vouchers and she had freaked out and nearly 'puked on all the baby clothes' because she hated the idea of having babies so much. She asked me if my baby was 'driving me mad by kicking yet?' then explained she knew what she was on about as she'd had an abortion at 22 weeks (I am 19) and then proceded to explain in detail the difference in procedure between a 22 week or 24 week abortion. Not really a conversation I wanted to be having. They weren't being negative about MY pregnancy, not that bad, but I think he realised they had been a bit over the top as he went off on one about how it just wasn't the right time for them as they had their careers to think about blah blah.

By that time our other friends had left (I suspect driven away) and DH was nodding off (too much rum!), she dropped some thinly veiled hints about where the food was (i explained I had put it away when we finished eating at about 10 pm Hmm) So i told her to help herself because by that time the kitchen was destroyed and I was too tired to make them something so just pointed her at the fridge. At about half one (after lots of yawning) i said I was really sorry I was going to have to go to bed (DH full asleep on couch by this point) and He said 'oh we would never outstay our welcome!' (um, if someone has said that you, then you already have!!) At which point she appears with sandwiches and he allows her to pour more wine. They finally left at 2 am.

Now I realise that this might be bothering me because a/ I am hormonal and tired and b/ I was sober but I just think its rude and self centred to show up at someones house at that time and basically take over the evening, or is it me thats being self centred and over sensitive about certain subjects just because I am pg? Anyway I feel better for ranting so thank you AIBU and Happy New Year!

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Medee · 01/01/2011 20:11

glad you have been able to chuckle over it with the other guests.

rocketleaf · 03/01/2011 12:14

Thanks medee just remembered that before Xmas, we accepted an invite to go out for her birthday in a few weeks time. It's Tapas tho so I should be able to 'drop the P bomb" as DH calls it and swerve the evening. Not much on the menu I can eat with my gallbladder problems.

Not sure I need to 'grow some' piglet, all this happened over the course of a few hours and it really wasn't til afterwards that I added it all up. I was pretty short with them regarding some aspects of the conversation and did ask them to leave when it got late. And I am certainly not going out of my way to see them in future.

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PrincessBoo · 03/01/2011 15:02

Yeah just concentrate on growing that baybee, think the addition of testicles at this stage in your life would be a terrible shock :o .

Funnily enough have never thought of you as the retiring violet type anyway dearest.

rocketleaf · 03/01/2011 18:42

good point boo although if its a boy then I am already growing some, so to speak Wink

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PrincessBoo · 03/01/2011 18:45

Aha!

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