to leave houseguests home alone whilst we go to a New Year's Eve party?

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My BIL and family are staying for a few days. Before we had fixed the dates (they live in a different country) we had accepted an invitation to a local NYE party. BIL and family decided to come over New Year anyway as the timings worked all round (we had asked them for Christmas lunch but they were seeing other family and YES I would have stayed in for that and even cooked it). They have small children btw and so would need a babysitter if they were to go out.

I am going to cook them supper and open a bottle of champagne before we go out (8.30pm) I have sudden guilt pangs .....AIBU to be deserting them? If they are lucky I will leave the heating on for them (joke).

You could argue that it was rude of the ILs to insist on coming to stay when they knew their hosts had plans. Presumptuous of them to expect it all to be cancelled on their account.

You could

Until the OP mentions that she thinks her DH might not have mentioned the plans to them before they came.

Oh no, they def knew BEFORE they CAME, just perhaps not when sorting out dates (I had stupidly assumed DH would look in the diary).

On the plus side, we are very good friends and so I hope they forgive us: we often holiday together and BIL lived with us for 2 years after we were newly married so knows about our diary management abilities. When mentioned, my SIL has graciously said that she wouldn't want to be out on NYE anyway. Also, my niece cries for days when she leaves staying/holidaying with us as she loves it so much . My nephew is too young to notice just yet but we are spoiling him getting to know him better as he grows so hope he will feel the same.

I might feel less bad if I hadn't spent all last night (their first night here) in bed feeling rotten whilst they ate their curry although DH no doubt entertained them. I am still a bit under the weather tbh and may slide off after the meal and before the tolling of the iron tongue of twelve.

Ho hum, 2011 augurs well

Oh, am I redeeming myself if I note that I have bought us all tickets to the pantomime tomorrow afternoon?

How did it all go tooposh?

You really didn't have any choice but to go ahead as planned by the time you got to last night.

We have an almost 22mo, and I would rather have stuck pins in my eyes than go out last night, so I would believe your SIL .

Hope all enjoy the panto.