to want a bit of company

[needcoffee1982]

to see the new year in with

:( why are you alone?

Hmm, YANBU to want some company. It's a bit of a miserable night on your own.

YAB a bit U to want to see the New Year in, it's overrated and makes you grumpy the day after!

It could just be me that can't stay awake after 9pm though...

Pour yourself a glass later and switch on Jools. x

alone with ds and dd. oh and a bottle of vodka. its just like any other nite of the year really

PfishFood I hate your name - I get an urge to go to the shop for ice cream every time I see it
(I am also an addict - such a child :o)

:(
How drunk are you planning to get?
Do you have anyone who will have the DCs for you sometrime soon so you can have a night out?
(You#re not in the Durham area by any chance?)

Stealth go buy sone, you know you want to!

needcoffee is there something nice you could do for yourself tonight? Any good films on or anything?

I often get depressed on NYE but then I'm a bit of a misery guts!

Same for me. Same as every year for the past 6 yrs. Just me and 4 Dc. I try and make it a fun evening for them but have really been struggling since Christmas without adult company.

Im home alone with my ds. No alcohol though, drinking alone shows a tendancy towards alcoholism. I can live without drink.

Flippin' 'eck ClassyDiva, that means half the people on here have alcoholism!

A glass or three at home every now and then does not an alcoholic make.

Apols for hijack

I've NEVER EVER been invited to a NYE party. I don't think they really exist - they're a myth to make you feel you're missing out.
Even the millylemon was a wash out for me. So my NY res then was to ignore it ever after!

needcoffee, sorry to hear that you feel lonely. Loneliness really sucks. I have spent xmas day on my own (when I was younger) and it was horrible. You have this idea that most people are having a great time and you are the only person in the planet who is alone.

Dare I suggest making a list of resolutions to improve things for 2011? Cut back on the booze, go places to meet new people if the ones you already know are not that supportive. I am planning to do this myself. 2010 was a fucking shit year for me for various reasons and I have found out who my real friends are (not as many as I thought ) so I am going to do a class in the (probably desperate) hope of meeting some more like minded people. Let's look to the future, and how we can improve it, rather than to a shitty past.

Happy New Year my dear. And you are not alone. There are lots of people on here taking time to type replies to your op and sending you positive vibes!

Whereabouts are you btw?

Actually, I've never been invited to a N.Y's party either. Just went down the pub when I was younger then sat in when I was older. Not missing much anyway. I hate NY's Eve. All that fake jolliness and pissed people.

thanks. i dont want to go out, i never do anyway cause noone can be trusted with DCs but just have had enough of being on my own since they were babies, so ive spent my twenties stuck indoors bringing up kids alone

I too am alone this evening. There are people I could call and say 'I'm going bonkers' but I've decided to treat it like any other night where I've decided to stay in.

I'm running a bubble bath, going to have a glass of wine in there while I soak with a crappy celeb mag, cook some yummy fish that I've bought, drink more wine, watch crappy telly and go to bed.

I've a lovely day with friends tomorrow and I had a massage earlier so am trying to see it all as 'half full'.

Not saying this to be smug - more that I have to tell myself to be thankful and there are people way worse off than me. Not sure that this is coming out right but hope you know what I mean.

needcoffee, do you have any family around that could watch DCs? Do you have a DP/DH?

And...a drink or two alone doesn't make anyone an alcoholic, for heaven's sake!

alone here too. DH has gone to a party in London, I'm here with DS - and pregnant so just the one glass of wine for me! Was having some people over but they can't get here till late and I'm not planning on staying up to see midnight!

i dont have anyone eve that i trust, they have all let me down in the past

How old are our DCs? Do you literally not trust anyone? What about your parents or their dad?
(Not tongiht I realise, but in general)

Hi needcoffee, your not alone, I'm in with just my two dc too :-)

Me too. I have been to some cracking NYE parties in the past, but for the last few years, it's just me.

Try not to let it get to you-most people really don't have that good a time on NYE anyway.

I do think you should try and sort out some kind of adult company for other times though.

Is there any way you could make friends in your area with other people with kids, and maybe do swaps now and again?

I know you cant go out to babysit others kids in the evenings, but maybe you could set up an arrangment whereby you do an afternoon for someone now and again, and they do an evening for you?

They would be getting the better deal anyway!
I know it can be hard to find babysitters, but going out now and again is essential.
(imo)