so flame me if you want

[cheezyquaver]

but AIBU to want to go to a proper old school rave?

In my early 20's I used to go to a lot illegal raves. I very occasionally used to take drugs but have since stopped all that lark. I never did it much anyway, preferring to get a bit drunk then just dance my ass off all night. I was very heavily into the scene and went every weekend all weekend.

Fwd wind a few years later I am now 36 I have a dd who is 3.5. I have just been invited to a warehouse party by old raving mate of mine whos never really left the scene. One of the main oraganisers of the raves back the are celebrating thier 20 yr anniversary this yr with an all out old school party in London and I think I want to go.

I am still fit and healthy and still enjoy the music but am more than too aware of the type of people I will be surrounded by. I would never ever take a drug again and intend to do it like I used to. Am i too old just for a one off night to relive old times.

go for it!

Of course you should go. I'm sure you'll have a great time.

I have been going underground clubbing since I turned 28, was a late bloomer - and it changed my life. I am on a break because I'm P with my first child. I just turned 36. I have had the best years of my life & have made some fantastic friends. Lots of them are parents & still go out - not as frequently of course, but people take turns doing what we call rave babysitting.

Plenty of my clubbing friends are well into their 40s or later. It's all about the love of good music.

I think only people who have been part of that sort of scene would understand how much fun it can be, and how you have a lovely little clubbing family.

I wouldn't set foot in mainstream club venues that plays Hed Kandi house rubbish though - whether I was 20 or 50!

I would definitely go. But be prepared for the fact that it may sully your great memories!

take me with you!

Go Go Go. Just because you are in your 30's and a mum it does not mean you are not YOU anymore. Its your life, live it and enjoy x

Oh god you must go..and tell me where it is please

I am dying to go raving, it's been far too long!

Do it! You'll either have a great time and get to remind yourself of all those times gone by or OTOH if it's a bit crap you can be smug about having moved on and not being one of the people who still do it every week into their thirties

I used to do a lot of raving but stopped in my early twenties as I started to feel way too old compared to all the whippersnappers.

Can't imagine I would feel any younger if I went to one now.

If you go, just bear in mind that:

1. The music has changed. It is bound to be largely dubstep which is proper bollocks.

2. The drugs have changed. Even if you are not taking them most other people will. Watching people on ketamine dancing to dubstep will make you feel like an extra in the Thriller video.

But fuck it. A night out's a night out innit. I went to an outdoor free party a couple of years ago just for old times sake and my dog got savaged by another dog and ended up with an emergency trip to the vets. So just don't take your dog, if you have one, it may ruin your night.

Definitely go. It might be a disappointment, but it might be great. If you go, you can come home early and never go to a rave again if you feel out of place. If you don't, you'll wonder what you missed.

You're only 36! Go for it and enjoy.

there are loads of people in their thirties at raves, having their own fun, not worrying about the age of a random stranger.
I think you will go and realise it is as fun as you remember, you will become all nostalgic and promise yourself to go once a year to refresh your soul

Go for it. Wouldn't suit me as I'd be complaining about the noise and having no where to sit. I daresay I'd be wittering on about 'not being able to hold a conversation in this racket' before long too.

I think you should go for it.

GO GO GO 36 is really not that old.
I have a couple of friends who are quite a bit older than 36 and we refer to them as 'ab fab' for obvious reasons (I quite envy them really).

Definitely go for it. I went to one in the summer and there were loads of people in their 40's and 50's there. No one judges, everyones just out to have a good time, maaaan!

Have a wicked time, am jealous! And if you do decide to take anything make sure you have the whole of the next day without dd to recover. At your age you'll need it

Of course you should go, I go to drum and bass raves all the time, prefer the jungle stuff from back in the day but it's still the same MC's, not as moody as it used to be either. Love it. Although I do leave at 430/5 most of the time

Go go go.

I am 41 and would go out raving/clubbing regularly still if I could find a babysitter for my 10month old who would do 24hrs (and I wasn't pregnant). Last Summer I went to the LED festival to see Leftfield and my Mum took care of my then 7mth old overnight. I went with a load of old ravers - aged 33 - 48 - and with a selection of kids between us (all at home of course) - as well as some youngsters who were 18! Afterwards we all went clubbing in Shoreditch. This Summer is one friend's 40th and we will be hiring a villa in Ibiza and going clubbing for a week - sharing babysitting duties.

I loved the old warehouse/squat parties and as soon as I stop breastfeeding my next DC I'll be going to one again .

How do you look dancing? Do you look like someones mum? Check out your reflection first is advice!