AIBU...this isn't really a Christmas pressie is it?

[HollyBollyBooBoo]

Bit of background...My SIL is getting married in April and wants my DD to be part of the occassion, not really clear what her role is as she'll only be 9 months old but that's fine, a lovely gesture and I'm happy for her to be a special part of it.

So Christmas Day comes and goes and I suddenly realise that SIL hasn't sent either an xmas card or any form of gift for DD. It's slightly out of character, SIL earns a small fortune and bought beautiful clothes for DD when she was born and is clearly delighted at becoming an Aunty for the first time. I asked DH and he said he'd ask SIL just because he was concerned she'd sent something in the post and it hadn't arrived and we'd then look rude not thanking her.

So we skyped with SIL yesterday and she said no she hadn't sent a present for DD as she had bought DD a flowergirl type outfit for the wedding and that was her Christmas present. She was really excited about it and showed it us etc and yes it is lovely. DH and I were totally

Now clearly this really isn't one of life's big issues but AIBU to think that if SIL has asked DD to be a part of her wedding, it's not really a Christmas present to buy a dress that DD will only wear once, in 4 months time, at SILs wedding?!

exactly my point HOT

though I suppose in family situations you can do it through family

Some v. interesting points...just to answer some queries:

• SIL is my DHs sister
• Didn't mean a Christmas card just for DD but we hadn't received one as a family, which is unusual as SIL is usually v. good at sending cards for xmas/b'days, even our wedding anniversary.
• We didn't skype just to ask about present! It was pre-arranged so we could speak to SIL and PIL on Boxing Day!
• Yes we sent SIL xmas card and present as always. So we didn't get a gift let alone DD.

-I'm honestly not being materialistic, we spent the sum total of £30 on DDs xmas present, I know it means nothing to her at this age!

Kind of see that may have come across as a bit rude to ask, but as a family we're all very straight talking don't do the whole finding out information by stealth thing.

It just seemed out of character to me and as I didn't want to seem rude by not thanking her, although I guess if we didn't thank her she may well have said something to alert us to the fact that clearly we hadn't received DDs present.

Just don't think a dress that DD will wear once and never again to an event that she has been invited to can really be considered a Christmas present.

She's a baby! She has no concept of Christmas presents!

Babies do not need presents. YABVU infact think this is a joke.

who cares if it's "considered" a Christmas present? She is a little baby. Why are you even giving this so much thought. Just be grateful that she's bought the dress and is happy to be an Aunty. No need to analyse and make a judgement about the dress being or not being a present.
What silly nonsense!

Oh! Tingletangle - if it's a joke, this makes more sense. Surely people don't think "is that considered a Xmas present? Hmmmm not sure... It's for a wedding..." lol yes it must be a joke.
Maybe it's one of those things that happened on a soap on TV again. :)