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[mummaloco]

Christmas presents under the tree? I literally had nothing at all under the tree and I know I'm being a bit silly but it really upset me

I have name-changed for this post as I don't want to seem really ungrateful. I have my oh, my dd 4 and my dd 11 weeks. I went out of my way even whilst having the worst flu ever to make sure that all present were bought and that my oh had gifts under the tree etc and i was happy christmas day watching them open the gifts but I felt a little upset that he got me nothing :(

I know he loves me but I really thought he would have got me something but nope nothing

aibu?

I used to babysit for a couple, they were not short of a bob or two. He asked wife waht she would like for Christams and she said "nothing" and on Christams morning when nothing appeared she wasn't happy - her birthday she got a lotus delivered and on the drive when she woke up, I loved going home in that car

DH and I do not buy presents for each other but we have made an agreement so it is different. In your case YANBU.

I always make a huge effort to get myself some lovely (not expensive) presents. I wrap them beautifully, bows, metallic paper, etc and they look gorgeous!

My dh buys me what I ask for. Never has surprised me. I know that he will never change, so a number of years ago, I took it into my own hands, and bought myself stuff.

The kids had also started to ask what father christmas had brought me, so I didn't want them to worry, or be concerned, etc.

Buy yourself something frivolous and lovely, and pass it off at home as a christmas pressie.

YANBU - personally I went out shopping on the 23rd to get my wife something when her presents hadn't turned up in the post. Wasn't that convenient for me given I had lots of work on and couldn't easily spare the time, but I had a dread of not making it out on the 24th at all (when I thought I would have time, but might have got caught up in getting stuff working before the break), and her having nothing. In the event the stuff turned up in the post anyway.

I'm sure I'll get slated for leaving it all too late (ordering stuff and going out shopping), but I don't really care - I'm a bloke and bad at making decisions about stuff like this, and in the event I found something really lovely. What I couldn't bear to do is not get anything at all.

You need to say something, otherwise he might think it acceptable - subtlety may be sufficient though (ie make a point of how nice it must have been for him to have something under the tree).

blokes don't do subtle

i'd say "oi twatface, why no fucking present?"

I think you should go buy yourself a really nice xmas gift and then mention what you have done to DH. I would have been so upset particularly as i buy/wrap all mine/his extended families gifts plus sort the tree and arrange all the food for the big day.

YANBU. . . .my DP is lovely in so many ways but hopeless at presents. Both Xmases I have chosen and bought my own present and he has reimbursed me. . ..
I told him this year and even had the gaule to ask if he had a wrapped up present for me on xmas day . . .
He did had 2 small presents, 2x boxes of chocolates, bottle of wine etc, but not wrapped up.
As for Valentines day and Mothers day i normally get nothing. . .so you have to "lay it one thick" and let them no that you feel rejected if no present appears.

OP have you told him yet?