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To be livid?

37 replies

gingerjam · 26/12/2010 21:26

Today was my christmas dinner day with my family. Close family friends are welcome but only when I'm told before hand. My sister asks me if she can bring her friend from work. I was ok, but said that is the last person as I can not seat more people.

I spent hundreds on this meal and was cooking for hours and hours, I bought all my guests presents and was looking forward to seeing my family.

The girl from work then turns up with her mum and husband! Complete strangers to me. DH and I were like "what the hell" They are the first to the table, they eat the most food, they bring no gifts they've just come to my house eaten my food and fallen asleep on the sofa? Not even contribute some christmas spirit but actually reduce the whole day to a degree of embaressment because they have no manners. I know christmas spirit and all that but I have a baby to look after I didn't need the rudest people in my house.

Get out you weirdo free loaders and cook your own food.

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LaurieFairyonthetreeEatsCake · 26/12/2010 21:28

Fark me, that is baaaaaaaaad!

The brass neck of some people. How very, very odd.

WhiteTrash · 26/12/2010 21:29

Thats really odd! I would feel really awkward going to a strangers house and doing that. I would be a bit pissed off with the sisters friend. Did the sister know this was going to be happening? In which case be peed off with her, but it sounds as though the friend took it upon herself.

Firawla · 26/12/2010 21:30

yanbu!!!
also if she was with her mum and husband you wonder why she really needed to come? could understand if it was sisters friend from work, all alone over the holiday season etc but clearly not the case here. make it clear to your sis she is not to bring extra people like this again, they have behaved totally out of order have they no shame. v strange

HumphreyCobbler · 26/12/2010 21:30

YANBU

I would be livid too. Why did your sister not nip this in the bud? What on earth did you say to her? Where did you sit them?

WhiteTrash · 26/12/2010 21:31

Good point Firawla.

Sariah · 26/12/2010 21:31

What did your sister think? Did she apologise to you? Was cheeky of her and a bit strange that they ageed to go. I can imagine bringing my mother and dh to someones house that I didn't know and not bring anything.

Sariah · 26/12/2010 21:32

*can't

MsKLo · 26/12/2010 21:32

I am mad fOr you

What did your sister say? That is awful

nomoreheels · 26/12/2010 21:32

I wouldn't have let them in.

But since it's too late for that... I'd ask your sister to contribute towards the cost of the extra guests, just to make a point. She may not be so careless again that way. Did she even apologise?

Rindercella · 26/12/2010 21:41

Would you really not have let them in nomoreheels? I would have done as I would have felt really awkward/rude otherwise but would have been really, really pissed off with the guests' behaviour.

nomoreheels · 26/12/2010 21:46

I think it's a step way too far, so yes. Why ruin my evening & be seething about it inside, just to be polite?

It's one thing to ring ahead & check if extra guests would be possible - that didn't happen. But surely the sister knew it was already a huge affair & that it would be massively cheeky. I'd have made her tell them that she was really sorry, she assumed it would be ok but there just wasn't space and food enough to go round.

mazzystartled · 26/12/2010 21:53

Wow

Just wow

Why would you turn up to a total strangers house if you had your dh and your mum to celebrate with? Unless your house had flooded or been set on fire or something.

LoopyLoopsOfSparklyFairyLights · 26/12/2010 21:58

Just why?

FuturePM · 26/12/2010 22:00

ha ha ha ha ! "Get out you weirdo free loaders and cook your own food". That made me chuckle. Oh dear how rude, I would be extremely PO, especially as you have a baby.

Kick them out. Now.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 26/12/2010 22:02

i actually could not bring myself to go for Xmas dinner at someone's house that i hadn't met. i couldn't do it. who are these people that think that is ok to do?

atswimtwolengths · 26/12/2010 22:02

I just can't believe someone would turn up to a stranger's house without them knowing in advance and then not bringing a present and doing all the washing up.

And what was the friend doing there if she had her own parents to go to?

What the hell does your sister have to say about this? She'd be off my Christmas list for a hell of a long time.

MumBarTheDoorSantaUsesChimneys · 26/12/2010 22:06

OMG Shock.

I would never presume it was OK to invite others to a meal - even my own DS. (I'm a single parent so he has to come - sometimes OK sometimes I have to decline).

What has your sister said?

bumpsoon · 26/12/2010 22:23

This isnt one of those piss take threads about bible stories and christmas is it ? ashamed to say i have scant knowledge of what mary ,joseph and baby jesus got up to post nativity ?
If not then you are well within your rights to charge the cheeky gluttons for the meal ,tell them its a family tradition Grin

StayingFatherChristmasGirl · 26/12/2010 22:26

I have nothing to add to the general feeling of Xmas Shock on this thread, but would love to know more details. Did the sister or her friend or the rude parents ever proffer any explanation for their presence? Have either the sister or the friend apologised for the rude parents?

TotorosOcarnina · 26/12/2010 22:26

omggg

i would be livid too!!

who does that?!??!

NonnoMum · 26/12/2010 22:29

Think it's your sister you need to have a chat to...

atswimtwolengths · 26/12/2010 22:40

Just thinking - if any of us was to arrive at a stranger's door (in this situation) the first thing we'd say is 'Thank you for inviting me...'

Were those words spoken? It would be the opening to say 'Who are you?'

swanandduck · 26/12/2010 22:42

What a weird bunch of freeloaders. I would make it clear to your sister she is not to invite people again, as her judgment seems to be a bit off.

atah · 26/12/2010 22:45

why did your sister do this, or even think it acceptable to do this Hmm
I would have let them in out of shock...then had a stiff drink, let the outrage overtake me then take great pleasure in kicking them out - along with my sister Grin

mamatomany · 26/12/2010 22:47

PMSL at them being first to the table. I bet they were, couldn't believe their luck no doubt.