To be livid?

[gingerjam]

Today was my christmas dinner day with my family. Close family friends are welcome but only when I'm told before hand. My sister asks me if she can bring her friend from work. I was ok, but said that is the last person as I can not seat more people.

I spent hundreds on this meal and was cooking for hours and hours, I bought all my guests presents and was looking forward to seeing my family.

The girl from work then turns up with her mum and husband! Complete strangers to me. DH and I were like "what the hell" They are the first to the table, they eat the most food, they bring no gifts they've just come to my house eaten my food and fallen asleep on the sofa? Not even contribute some christmas spirit but actually reduce the whole day to a degree of embaressment because they have no manners. I know christmas spirit and all that but I have a baby to look after I didn't need the rudest people in my house.

Get out you weirdo free loaders and cook your own food.

Deck the halls with boughs of holly...TROLL TROLL TROLL TROLL tra LOL LOL LOL !!!

Yes,you're right...it's just I can't believe there are such absolutely obnoxious people out there.

I had a firm chat with my sister. I eventually got an apology. I think it was the work friends cheekiness but mostly sheer arrogant stupidity. The friend's mum then proceeded to grab my sisters fat belly in the middle of dinner and ask when the baby is due (my sister has polycystic ovaries so fat belly and sadly no babies) and then the mum runs up to me and hugs me wildly in front of everyone and thanks me for the invitation. The woman was serious immature. What grown woman follows her daughter about instead of cooking for her own family. Grrr, grow up If it ever happens again, I will kick them out as they spoiled my day and efforts.

Its not a joke, just a very annoyed woman.

Thanks for all the feedback, it has been very helpful in getting over it.

YABU not to draw a moustache/glasses on their faces with permanent marker when they fell asleep.

YABU not to draw a moustache/glasses on their faces with permanent marker when they fell asleep.

Was your sister not embarrassed throughout the evening? Did she not once come up to you in a quiet moment and say something like "Oh my god, this is awful, I did not know she would bring people, I am so sorry I invited her". Or words to that effect? If she did not, I would be very disappointed in her. You cant really blame the "guests", they probably thought "what idiots invite a bunch of strangers to their family Christmas" and treated you thereafter. Surely it was not the friend from work who invited yourself to your sister? Your sister must have extended an invite to them, and then asked you if it was ok, putting you in this awful position. I hope she has been firmly chastised.

Did your sister know that work friend was going to bring her mum and dh before they turned up? If she knew before and didn't tell you I'd be mad with her. If she didn't know until they were on the doorstep then she is probably also mad with them.

Did someone brick up your door? You had the option to ask them to leave.

It baffles me when people allow such kind of things. Really they bend over and take it up the arse then turn round and moan and say how angry they are about it.

How extraordinary.

Blimey what cheek!

I thought the friend was alone ie no parents/siblings etc so could understand your sisiter feeling sorry for her, but to arrive with mother and dh in tow, no way!

How rude. Perhaps next year tell your sisiter and evryone else in no uncertain retms that you do not want any uninvited guests.
However I know how difficult it is as last year my mil and fil not only arrived 3 hours late for Christmas day tea but brought uninvited bil with them. He was pissed up, didn't bring so much as a Christmas card for my dcs and we hadn't seen him for the entire year.