to wish that people would stop bloody fighting

[Fibilou]

so that my DH could actually finish on Christmas Day at a reasonable hour ? He's been working lates and nights all over Christmas and last night finished 3 hours late dealing with a domestic.

AIBU to wish that the domestic violence perpetrators could chill the fuck out over Christmas to give both their victims and my poor DH a break.

Or maybe 'chill out' permanently?

well, quite. But particularly over Christmas

i work in our post-charge unit and am back to work on Wednesday where we will be dealing with the aftermath of the Christmas remand courts. I can pretty much guarantee that 90% of the files will be domestic violence. It's awful

yabu.....its his job! and if it wasnt domestic abuse (how inconvenient for you) then it would be some thing else

:( it's awful how christmas can bring out so much violence with in families. hope he gets a nice rest after christmas

it's no inconvenience to me, dear. I was asleep when he finished. But thanks for the patronising little message though.

an inconvenience to him then,whoever!

its his job and any other incident could have delayed him as well. but you know that,just as you also know that the dv rates shoot up over christmas,so its kind of expected really.

do you honestly think that someone who is abusing their parner or children gives a flying fuck who they inconvenience? seriously?? if they had they foresight to think "hang on, the police don't want to be working on Xmas day so I'll give it a break" then i doubt they would be the sort of people to be causing the call outs in the first place. how about a bit of sympathy for the victims and appreciate that your DH is in a position to potentially give them a break from it over Xmas by removing the perpertrator.

If he doesn't like it then he ought to choose a different career.

Chill out! I think the OP was mildly tongue in cheek with her thread!

I remember it happening in the middle of Tom and Jerry cartoons.

Not seen it in RL though.

Do you ever get his cases ?

tongue in cheek about DV? nice

OP is not wrong to want her DH home on Xmas day, no-one could say she is but to imply it is a simple case of abusers just taking teh day off??

I doubt for one minute that that was a serious suggestion.

bit of a sick topic for a joke.

strange how some are reading this thread

FFS. Some of you take things so fucking seriously.

I work with a lot of DV victims, I used to work on response myself so have dealt with a lot of it at the coalface. I certainly don't make jokes about it.

Some of you could have an argument with yourselves in a phonebox

Oh, and the case that delayed him was someone swearing at his nan. His father punched him, massive row ensued and during this son spat in his mother's face and so she punched him back. All 3 spent the night in custody

Not exactly your idea of frail DV victims needing protection

realy fibilou. you were bein flippant about it. maybe you have been desensitised to it through your work. maybe it is just "another DV callout". but no need to joke.

and you were the one posting that you wished DV perps would give their victims a break. you made out it was abusers and vcitims not family spats.

good lord, leave the thread before your head explodes boo

don't be silly SEA. that would almost be like would almost be like censorship.

don't like what i am saying then don't read it. I will post as i see fit.

well in that scenario then i would think the 'nan' would need the protection! which she got. and any dc in the house would too. so he did the job he's paid to do.

I would say that a large percentage of violent behaviour is alcohol related, yes