to wish that people would stop bloody fighting

[Fibilou]

so that my DH could actually finish on Christmas Day at a reasonable hour ? He's been working lates and nights all over Christmas and last night finished 3 hours late dealing with a domestic.

AIBU to wish that the domestic violence perpetrators could chill the fuck out over Christmas to give both their victims and my poor DH a break.

and family thrown together Riven.....who usually avoid each other

Calm down, ladies.

The two basic sentiments are:

i) I would like my husband to have a bit less work to do (who wouldn't?)

and

ii) I would like there to be less domestic violence (who wouldn't?)

it would just open up a huge black market and even more crime to fund it and get it into the country riven.

i agree, i would love it banned too, but i just know it would go the same way as drugs are now.

don't see why it should be banned for the sake of some not being able to handle it. maybe make sentences higher for dv incidents

oh and boo just didn't think you had to be so viscious in your reply to op, oh but wait, oh yes it's another aibu subject so it's allowed

i wasn't vicious.

where was Boo viscious?

Bloody he'll I think op was just having a bit of a frustrated rant and wanted a bit of sympathy!

Have some from me op - you're obviously both committed to
your work and helping people, doesn't mean you don't sometimes just want a break!

Riven - I reckon you're right. Booze + family cooped up
together = trouble in some cases (did in mine)

i think its without an s......not 100%

until you have done a job that entails constantly working way past your shift ending you really cant imagine what it is like.Me and dh do this all the time for our jobs and can never make firm plans and are constantly worried about being late for childcare.Its not enough to say we should leave the job as we have pensions tied up which we have paid into for years and its not that easy to just get another job is it.Also we mostly dont get paid overtime or paid at all as we have to take time owing which we then cant take as it cant be covered.dh has around 35 hrs owing but couldnt even leave an hour early on xmas eve which was also our anniversry as there was no cover.
I was a victim of serious domestic violence years ago and would never ever minimise its seriousness but some of these domestic cases are people who persistently call public services for minor inccidents which occurr in destructive relationships they chose to stay in for years and actually detract from the serious violent cases that public service workers should be giving priority to.

i have done the job myself,knew what it entailed,as did my partner at the time......knew the nature of the job,xmas being no exception,worked the extra hours..

was also,years later,in a dv relationship (no alcohol involved)

no joke.

yes tiff but didnt you occasionally get fed up,thats all op was saying. you,d be super human to feel joyfull about working late some of the time.

All 3 spent the night in custody

That's a bit tough on nan isn't it ?