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AIBU to think this child's mother is strange?

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auntyfash · 19/12/2010 21:04

Just had ds's birthday party, he's 7, and this one boy started to scratch the arm of my leather settee. Not just a tiny scratch, but he was writing in HUGE letters using his thumb to scratch the leather. His mum started giggling and said to him, oh what are you drawing, that's nice... so after I'd picked my jaw back up off the ground I told her son not to write on my settee. I then got a cloth and started to wipe away the marks as best I could, and being polite told her it'd probably come off as my own son had scratched it in the past and I'd managed to get the marks off. She then said oh well he probably only did it because he's got it from your son. I was gobsmacked! Not only did she encourage her son to mark my settee, but she then blamed MY son for her son doing it!

Shortly after, her son started play fighting with her, and she allowed her son to really pull her hair really hard and to ikick her. She didn't ask him to stop or tell him off, she just let him and laughed as he was doing so. I think this woman is weird.

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TheBrandyButterflyEffect · 19/12/2010 21:06

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ItsMeMo · 19/12/2010 21:07

YANBU what a strange woman!

VallhalaLalalalalalalalaaaaaa · 19/12/2010 21:08

I think you must have been glad to see the back of them both! I take it that the little brat darling and his peculiar mother won't be invited to your DS's next party? :o

MerryMarigold · 19/12/2010 21:08

Grin YANBU

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auntyfash · 19/12/2010 21:09

If it wasn't that our sons are good friends I would avoid this woman like the plague.

Oh, just rememebered something else, she asked me what I was doing Xmas day, so when I told her we'd be staying in, eating and drinking and playing with the kids she said, "oh well if you're not going anywhere I'll bring N round to play with T" Shock

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bupcakesandcunting · 19/12/2010 21:10

I would have kicked her in the minge or set my killer dog onto her. Sort her aht.

TheHoneydragonsInTheIvy · 19/12/2010 21:10

Was the boy who did this 7 Shock - surely at 7 if he somehow didn't know this is wrong he is old enough to be told that it is by his parent?

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auntyfash · 19/12/2010 21:10

She's alos forever asking me at the school gate when her ds can come to tea at my house...I make excuse after excuse but she still persists. The woman is insane I think.

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TheHoneydragonsInTheIvy · 19/12/2010 21:11

Whoops Vals here
in that case YANBU (and you need a parsnip Wink)

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auntyfash · 19/12/2010 21:11

He's not quite 7 but certainly old enough to know not to scratch other peoples furniture, and old enough to be told off.

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serin · 19/12/2010 21:13

Your son does not need this boy as a friend.

He sounds like trouble with a capital T, imagine what he will be like at 14!

Sever all links!

Goblinchild · 19/12/2010 21:14

Does her boy get invited to many houses more than once?
Perhaps that's why she's planning on gatecrashing your Christmas. Don't let her in.

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Booandpops · 19/12/2010 21:15

Agree!

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auntyfash · 19/12/2010 21:15

Bloody hell brandybutterfly!

Thing is, my son has asd and has very limited friends, so I've kind of encouraged this friendship. After his (and his mother's) behaviour today though I might have to have a rethink. Not stop them playing together at school like, but I shall deffo try to encourage other frioendships. Might have a word with his teacher next term and see who he plays with.

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auntyfash · 19/12/2010 21:16

I shall be locking my door at Xmas, don't worry!

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SantasENormaSnob · 19/12/2010 21:16

I would not be engaging with this person.

Not normal behaviour at all

PublicHair · 19/12/2010 21:19

i know a mum of a 3 year old who is the same,they are social outcasts,particularly as she spends any time she can telling others where they are going wrong while her son is biting (her or his mates)and kicking off with them.
horrible. (her and now thanks to her her son is too-poor little thing never stood a chance)

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auntyfash · 19/12/2010 21:23

That sounds just like her publichair! She's forever trying to give me parenting tips re my son, who tbf does have some asd linked odd behaviours, but bloody hell, she has absolutely no control over hers. And she tells me how her son could help my son with his work "cos of his condition" yet my son is actually on the G&T reg as well as being on the SN reg.

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BlathIceSkate · 19/12/2010 21:24

Maybe she was mortified by his behaviour and just trying to laugh it off??

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auntyfash · 19/12/2010 21:28

I don't think this woman is an indigo type at all, she's just fucking mental! I doubt she's even heard of indigo kids.

I remembered something else. Once after he'd been to play here, I was talking to my ds senco and mentioned that N had been to play (that was the time he tried to steal a spiderman costume, he'd stuck it down the front of his pants!) and she looked a bit worried and said, Has T been to N's house?". It felt like she was trying to warn me of something, but as I told her T doesn't go to anyone's house as he just doesn't want to she didn't say anything else.

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howtoapproach · 19/12/2010 21:30

I am regrettably caught in with a woman like this. Get rid now, whilst you still can. Otherwise you will continue to drop your jaw three years later (like me).

My DD was at play centre recently with me, said mum and her ds. A friend from my dd's school turns up and they play a bit. I ask her not to leave friend's ds out, so she comes back to play with him.

At which point ds says to my dd's friend - dd thinks you're really boring. She just told me.

Mum races over - oh you must never repeat terrible things that DD has said. She is very bad for saying them...

She never said anything!! The little tyke made it up.
I'm worried parent of friend from school is thinking - how rude my dd is. (but in actual fact i think he knew).

And I'm left feeling - how did that just happen?