To expect a bit of gratitude and not to be told how crap I am and that it's 'D'P's worst birthday ever?

[Mumbybumby]

Bit of background:
P's birthday today.

I've been without a bank card for 6 weeks due to bank's f up, work 3 days a week, have been ill for 2 weeks, am 31 weeks pg and have a poorly 20 month old DD who has had a temp of 38.5 for 7 days and I have been looking after on my own because P has been working away for last 10 days.
Despite this I managed to get him cards from DD and I, some special chocolates that he likes and have organised a babysitter for Saturday all day so we can go to the cinema (first time since DD was born) and booked a Michelin Star restaurant for dinner.
He has moaned about the fact that today hasn't been 'special' - I went to work at his insistence but had to come home as DD's nursery rang saying she was really poorly.
I went out and got him a curry.
He found out about the restaurant booking when he borrowed my phone and complained that it was booked for the evening and changed the booking to another restaurant (!) for lunch even though it was one he's wanted to go to for ages.
I'm pretty fing upset and hurt, not to mention the hormones!
So AIBU to expect a bit more gratitude than this?

I am concerned about him insisting that you go to work even though you then had to come home and look after a sick child.

Is he your dad? who is he to insisit that you go to work and send a sick child to nursery? Sorry but he sounds like a twat. I would buy myself and kids a massive box of chocs and sit and eat them in front of him on his birthday whilst playiong with the kids and ignoring him.

Thanks toomuchmonth, DD's temp has gone down a bit and she seems a bit more settled tonight so fingers crossed she'll be ok soon!
Angelzigzags - you're right, he is a bit sad but I'll let him off seeing as he apologised (promptly, too!) he can be a bit like a big kid but it's usually enthusiastic, happy kid not grumpy ungrateful teenager!

There is a type that get jealous of DC birthdays? It's not just my twat of a 'H'?

DS was 5 on tuesday, 'H' slept till whenever, when DS had already gone to school, then pissed off to see his mates. Still not back (hooray)

Not even a phone call.

Your P sounds like a RIGHT P(rick). don't bother with him next year. Twat.

DISCLAIMER: there has been wineconsumed this evening

To be fair, muminthemiddle, we did both think DD was ok this morning - she was bouncing around all happy and I went in late to make sure she was ok first but he did insist I went to work whereas if he'd stillbeen away I would've had another day off work (partly laziness!)

He isn't that bad anyfucker, he can be a total arse but he isn't jealous of DD in any way and would never be like that on her birthday (he'd be out on his ear if he was!)

well he acted like a twat, MB

I am surprised you rolled over after a few words of "sorry" tbh

he expects a "special" birthday surprise for his 33rd and spits the dummy out when it doesn't resach his very high expectations ?

yes, that is the type that would resent a child getting more attention than him

Oh my goodness littlemisshoho, I'm sorry your H is beig such an arse! He really hasn't come back/called since Tuesday?! Puts my whinging into perspective. Hope you give him what for when he comes back.

Or just lock the door!

littlemiss ho ho ho, your dh is still not back?? and missed his son's birthday ???

Not going to argue - he was being a total twat!

If he was like it all the time I mightn't have been so forgiving but he is usually quite thoughtful and this was out of character, which is probably why it upset me so much!
Ah well, he now has a cold and has spent the evening doing nothing much while I've been on here moaning about him so I'm sure he's enjoyed himself! :)

No, to be fair he did tell me he was going for a couple of days.

Things between us really ARE that bad.

but his son? twat.

I won't give him anything, I really can't be bothered anymore. I hope he never comes back.

placing my bets he'll be here for the weekend though, for the official party...

so he can pretend to be a dad....

Won't do anything for it, I'm fairly sure, won't help pay for it.

Loathesome twat.

I'm so sorry things are so crap with him littlemiss. I can't believe he would do that to his son!
Does he do this kind of thing a lot?
Sending you a hug x

My DH says yours should be shot. He doesn't sound like he's joking....