Calling all drivers AIBU

[reinitindear]

Am not a driver myself so genuinely do not know if IABU.My exh is due to pick DD up for her Christmas stay on Friday but DD may be in the final of a competition on Monday we won't find out till Friday pm if she is or not.He was intending on driving down with his wife on Friday. He is now saying that they can't come on Saturday morning (as suggested if DD doesn't make the final) as he would have to do the 7 hour round journey as this is too long a drive not to share? ( he is a driving instructor by trade)and she will have to wait till Monday.AIBU to think he could drive on his own without being a danger?

Apologies, my point was that 7 hours would be nothing to me if I wanted to see my dd. (Especially if I only saw her 3 times a year).

And I do find 7 hours driving easy, did 10 hours from Cornwall in August (admittedly with 4 short stops) with no problems whatsoever.

And I would also like a Mermaid spoon

I think it depends on the:
a) driver
b) weather
c) traffic conditions

a) OH loathes driving. He hates driving so much that he would rather stay at home than go anywhere other than to visit his family or go on holiday. It atkes about 2.5 hours to get to his mum's, and that is about his limit. He would never, ever consider doing that drive as a round trip in one day.
b) At this time of year, driving is horrible, not just the snow and ice, but the muck on the road means you get through gallons of screenwash.
c) Many schools break up tomorrow. The traffic will horrendous.

Quite franhkly I think it is unreasonable to expect anyone to do a 7 hour drive at any time of the year, let alone now.

Incidentally, why don't you learn to drive?

I've driven Edinburgh to Reading on my own in one trip {then back again a weekend later } not a problem
Did lots of stops and music
But it was summer and light
I didn't have an excited youngster who wanted/ needed my attention and I had timed it to avoid the heaviest of traffic.
My daughter did the same drive on the same days but felt she couldn't do it without sharing the drive.
What suits one driver doesn't suit another.
If your ex feels he is incapable of driving safely until he can split the driving then I'd take him at his word and say it will have to be the Monday then.

btw to poo-stir a driving instructor must be used to sitting in a car attentive for hours on end surely?
But HE has stated he feels he would be unable to drive without sharing it with his wife, there may be more than the drive involved in that statement I think

ratspeaker - I imagine that's precisely why they tend not to like long journeys. Plus they aren't controlling a car for the majority of their lessons.

the longest I've ever done in a day was probably about 8 - sheffield-london-south wales. I was young and invincible stupid. definitely wouldn't do it now. nor get a lift from someone else doing it iyswim. too much.

ok DH drives long distances for work (on his own as he needs his tools, big comfy company car with cruise control, no distractions like a younsgter in the car) and has frequently done 400+ mile journeys. He finds that he needs atleast 2-3 stops on these type of journeys and is always opts for a stop over if its a journey of 5 hours+ driving. He is pretty sensible but would always opt to come home if he could so probably 7 hours might be too much.

Sometimes it comes down to the driver and he is saying it is too much then maybe you may have to respect that - at least he is putting your DD's safety first

bunbaker I would love to learn to drive but have no spare money to pay for lessons let alone afford to run a car.

Ah right. I should have thought of that. Never mind, one day...