Almost 2yrs old and I cant take much more

[NorwegianMoon]

my daughter is 2 next month and i dont know what to do about her behaviour. ive never met a child so demanding with such a temper. the irony is we are so close, ive done all the right things ext bf, co sleeping complete bonding from day 1. but she is sch hard work, if im not holding her she screams hysterically (no tears). her scream is something else, its ear piercingly loud and it sounds like im beating her (im not).

She still has bm only sometimes for comfort, not actualy meals. But she wont eat food, whateveri give her she refuses. she follows me constantly, shes up until midnight every night, wont sleep in her own bed. no matter how many hours i spend settling her she gets up when i move away.

its making my life hell.

any ideas?

tough love is needed i think

I'd agree with the poster who suggested you let your DS sleep in your room while you train her to sleep in her own bed. She needs to learn to go to sleep in her own bed, in her own room. If screaming means she gets to stay in your room, she's won again.

And your DH needs to step up. So what if he needs sleep? So do you! If he buckles down with you while you get through the first really difficult days/nights of tough love, life will be more pleasant for him too. He'll have a wife who isn't stressed out and no screaming child disturbing his nights.

Make sure that you discuss any new regimes with him and get him on board. If you work all weekend, I assume he's looking after the DC. If he doesn't stick to the new plan, all your work during the week could be undone.

Good luck!!

PS - please don't make "I can't because of XYZ" excuses about the suggestions here. As the wise person said, if you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting the same result. You're not happy, your child is not happy. You need to change things.

Try this other supernanny episode. The girl is slightly older than your DD but she still breastfeeds constantly throughout the day and is totally attached to mum.

Hopefully has some tips in it. Even tips to get her of the feeding.

is she the youngest and the only girl?

Sounds like she needs tough love and consistentancy. She is not the boss.

Move your son into your room for a while on a camp bed and go back to basics. If you don't make changes now, it will only get worse and harder to deal with.

I read the book Little Angels and found it helpful. Supernanny tips can work as well.

OP, make bedtimes short and sweet- I found that when we were with my MIL she would read stories for hours and they wouldn't let her leave the room and sometimes weren't sleeping until 11pm We keep it predictable- dinner (we eat late) shower/bath brush teeth if they don't do that they don't get a story (have never had to follow that threat through) they get PJs on and we cuddle up for a story, and then they can read by themselves for 5-10 mins, then lights out. Every night, without fail- the bedtime may vary at the weekends by half an hour or so, but that is the routine and they don't question it.