How did it all come to this?

[Slinkysista]

Sitting here at least three stone overeweight. It's friday night, I never go out, I cant't remember the last time I laughed, really laughed out loud! I don't think I love my husband. I deperately want to be someone else or me fifteen years ago. Anyone else ever feel like this?

Slinky - it is not all gone, it is just hidden and your mission, should you choose to accept is to go out and find it.

You are right Gleekfan, I need to get into a positive frame of mind, I was in bits earlier when I posted. I hate being like this tomorrow I am going to do some little thing for myself, It will be a start.

I really miss clothes too! I have 3st to lose and sometimes I get my old clothes out and think- I love this stuff, and I'm still mid -late- 30's, still look ok in face, not wizened up hag yet, just bloody drop the weight and think how much fun I could have wearing this nice stuff...

I mostly think this when I click on MTV or similar by accident- and suddenly being in a club in my 20s just FLOODS back, and its painful to realise that part of my life has gone.

sigh..

Here I sit in DP fat jeans eating wine gums and crisps like its going to help.

Ooops, another hijack. Sorry.

You go for it Slinkysista

Enjoy tomorrow.

No Glitterkitty this is me, I do that also. I don't want that part of my life to be over, well I don't want to go to a club but just to go out and feel good about myself again.
Have friends coming over from California in May, they are skinny, tan and v glamourous. Would love to loose something so I don't feel like the fat frump tagged on the end.
P.S. I don't want to be size zero or anything just a nice size 10 -12 would be perfect!

Ah Slinky, I know! 12 would be heaven.

May is far enough away. I agree that low carbing is a good way to go, but you have to be determined.

Myself, I am weak and it seems so hard- its replacing the pleasure of food/wine etc- salad and sit ups not so immediatly fulfilling as biscuits (tho I know this is really stupid!).

Porto I do the wine in front of computer thing too- just worked out I'm drinking 40ish units a week, so cutting that right out. Its just crept up and it dosent help with the weight...

Feels so unfair that all this lovely stuff is making us all fat! Where is the justice?!

Another one in the bored, weight to lose, fed up with DH camp!

I'd highly recommend the GI diet, am not doing it strictly but it the food on it is great, filling, tastes good and minimal weighing & faffing about.

Also, ask your slim friends what they eat. I did this recently and tweaked my diet accordingly. I don't weight myself but can tell I've lost a few pounds as a result.

Hope 2011 brings you what you want!

I'm joining this thread as I'm in the same boat as OP, and other posters it seems.

Five years ago, I had a full-time career, a fab social life, and a great wardrobe as I was a steady size 10.

Now though, I've had two DC's in two years, gave up my job to become a SAHM - and have put on 4 stone . I feel bored, boring and tired. Lost all my pizzaz about myself - none of my clothes fit, and I hate going out clothes shopping, as I can't accept the size I've become.

Am also on Citalopram for PND, so libido went out the window long time ago, although this may be partly as a result of my post-baby body. DH hasn't said anything negative, insists he still thinks I'm beautiful, but I look at myself in the mirror and know deep down that can't be true

I know the theory behind weight loss, but I just seem to have slipped into a rut of MNing in my jammies in the evening eating chocolate, drinking wine etc.

So, OP, I can relate fully to how you're feeling - and would love to join a thread in the vein of Positive Thinking 2011. I'd like to make it the year I actually get off my fat arse and do something about this - instead of just good intentions but no action.

Spooky thread ,are you my twin OP ? Ive just ordered some trainers ,i am going to do a 10k run next october ,believe me it will take me all of those ten months to get my fat , fag and wine abused body into any shape to do it ! The best thing i found about running ,is how nice your knees look after a while (ok a long while!) , its the best time of the year to start ,running under cover of darkness ,so people cant see you jiggling and wobbling along! Mind you my running style is very much being chased by a pack of wild animals

Gleek - love it, what a brilliant song and video. I've seen Coldplay twice (pre-dc, sniff), and still think they're amazing.

Thank-you

Did someone start the Positive Thinking thread yet ?

I'll join the positive thinking thread if it gets started!

I do think sometimes when you have kids, a partner, pets and a home to look after, your own needs fall way to the bottom of the list.

For instance, I will make my DDs something nice for their tea most days, something healthy with plenty of veg etc etc...then for my tea I'll have toast or super noodles because it seems too much effort to cook just for me (when DH is working). I don't feel I'm worth the effort iyswim?

DH has got me an exercise bike for Christmas, I love it as I can sit in front if the telly and exercise at the same time but I've not used it for a few days, just feel no motivation.

I will get of my fat backside in 2011 though, can't bear another year of being this big. I want to wear nice clothes in the summer!

I have said before, you CAN'T have it all, and it is usually YOU that gives.

Where should we put it??

Not AIBU!

Right - i've done it. My first positive step!

Thread started in 'Off the Beaten Track'

(Under 'other stuff')

Come on - lets do it!

Yay WikiSpeaks I will be sure to check out the thread.

Well done Wiki!

So I have checked in on the other thread. Who else is coming? Where are you Slinky?

Think of FAB gorgeous larger women, I LOVE Queen Latifa (and her attitude) and think she is gorgeous. As is Nigella.

They are not young and slim, yet happy and confident and bloody beautiful.

Until you loose some weight, you'll just have to work on your attitude.

Start eating a bit healthier (no diets, they mess with your brain imho, apart from the GI plan, which is not really a diet but more a sensible ating plan). Go for walks or swim, every little bit helps.

get yourself a fab haircut.

My mum, at 55, decided to change her life, and got a job for the first time in her life, and started colouring her hair, and wear better clothes (needed for the job) and she just BLOSSOMED in terms of confidence and looks and fun. no age is too old to turn things around, you just have to really want to. She is 73 now, and still works and has loads of fun with colleagues and friends. More fun than me I reckon

Wanting to go back in time and being 15 years younger is unattainable and a waste of time. instead, try thinking what a 50 year old you would think of you now...you have got your whole life ahead of you babe!

Nice post Chandon

bumping for others.

Great post Chandon- I agree that primarily confidence is all a state of mind. I was no more confident as a size 8 than I am at a size 16/18 really, so while I know I need to lose weight for my health, I need to change the way I think too.

Your mum sounds fab!