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in thinking that this work trip is like a trip from hell? as others at work think I am

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Ferb123 · 05/12/2010 18:11

every year, our global company host a big get together for senior staff. It's always somewhere abroad and normally fairly hard going (everyone has to do presentations, we do breakfast then straight to work, lunch in the conference hall, straight to dinner, bed, wake up for breakfast). It's v tiring but because of that, has always been held in quite a nice luxurious hotel within say 15-30 mins of an international airport so it's easy for everyone. You don't get much time to yourself but at least you do get your own space in the evening.

I've just received the invitation for this year's one and it's not being held in a hotel this year. They have decided to hold it in (what are supposed to be) luxury cabins (same price as the hotel) in the middle of fucking nowhere - about 2 hours from a regional airport. And I've just looked them up and they are tiny. The bedrooms are v v close together, there are obviously no locks on the door. Some of the bedrooms have bunk beds for children (they are family lodges, designed for family groups or groups of friends). Not all of them have bathrooms.

I am the only woman going. I don't particularly want to share bathrooms with a whole load of blokes I don't even know that well. Nor do I particularly want to hear them snoring through the walls or strolling around in their pyjamas. This isn't a young company, the people coming are v senior (so nost are in their 60s), not that this bothers me, but I'm now going to have to spend every minute with them as all the recreational areas (like the lounge) are open plan and obviously, because it's a lodge there are no TVs or desks in the rooms!

It's for a whole bloody week and I am dreading it. Coupled with the fact that one of the men who came last time spent most of his time knocking on my hotel room door (I could lock it and pretend I wasn't there) saying he wanted 'a coffee' (yes you can imagine his intentions) and he is already looking totally fucking gleeful at the arrangement....no locks on the door, free range to roam around :(. What the fuck am I going to do!

Spoke to my boss who said 'I don't know what's wrong with you, it'll be great, you can have your own room with a bathroom' ARRRGHHH

OP posts:
GreenButton · 06/12/2010 13:20

Its a personal safety issue - no lock on the door = not safe for a woman on her own.

I think you need to have a little "off the record" chat with HR.

diddl · 06/12/2010 13:37

Blimey, I´d refuse to go.

No locks on doors, and a man who has pestered you for "coffee" is trying to find out your travel arrangements.

That is utterly disgusting & you really must report it.

plupervert · 06/12/2010 15:04

The company is wrong and irresponsible to put you - or anyone - in this position. Your boss is bloody insensitive - not a very good manager!

Are any of your male colleagues also dubious about this far-out, extra-travel-time, sharing, no-locks experience? I imagine some would be pleased if you got it cancelled, meaning that it doesn't actually have to be just your refusal. If a group of you got together, you could limit the damage, or actually get it changed, without being the one under this amount of pressure.

Good luck. It does sound like a badly-conceived plan with a lot of danger points (even if men don't mind sharing, they might mind someone pinching/using their things).

LoveBeingADaddysGirl · 09/12/2010 10:55

Any update, how have you got on?

plupervert · 13/12/2010 14:01

Maybe she's out in the woods RIGHT NOW, enticing bears into the pervert's cabin, where he cannot lock the door!

OTheHugeManatee · 13/12/2010 14:05

If you think that bloke is going to be pesky, you could always get a couple of mousetraps to put by the door in case he accidentally 'sleepwalks' into your cabin late at night? Xmas Grin

GetOrfMoiLand · 13/12/2010 23:30

How the HELL can this kind of thing go on in this day and age.

Oh god why am I surprised?

This is utterly out of order, please do have a chat with HR. No need to directly refer to the leech, just say you have had harrassment in the past and you do NOT want to be out in a compormising position.

Utterly stupid to be the lone female in a place with no locks on the doors.

I am utterly fuming on your behalf, tbh, and that's not something I would say lightly.

I am also astonished. What kind of Silvio Berlusconi company do you work for? I have always worked in a male dominated enviornment and normally the companies have been so anal in making sure that the women can't ever complain about any arrangements.

Christ.

GetOrfMoiLand · 13/12/2010 23:32

How hideous that someone you bloody weel work with has been knocking on your door when you are away.

Pesky twat.

God going away on business is tedious. I remember running the gauntlet past a load of pissed up turks in Paris on one occasion to name a few. It is HORRIBLY vulnerable being a single woman in a large hotel. The bastards follow you.

HollyTwat · 14/12/2010 00:38

Agree with getorf this shouldn't happen today.

Please say something op
Or come down with any number of bugs going round at the last minute

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