Dh has date for vasectomy, I don't want any more children, but AIBU to feel so sad.

[FairhairedandFrustrated]

As the title suggests, Dh got date in for 2 weeks time.

I don't want any more children, we have 2, & i suffered terribly with hyperemisis in both pregnancies.

I can't take the pill, it sends me mad, don't want a coil etc.. so dh decided he would have the snip, said it was only fair after I have two babies & terrible sickness.

But now the letter has arrived I feel so so so so upset :( It is for the same date that my sister is having her baby delivered by section.

I don't think I want any more babies... I am almost 33, DH is 35 & says he doesn't want anymore either...but I dunno.

I think I am being very childish, I cried today when a mum was BFing her baby in a M&S cafe.... Dh was all flustered, didn't know what to do with me, I pretended there was something in my eye

We don't want anymore children... our family in complete.... but I hate the thought of it never ever being a possibility again.

I am so so confused.

Is this normal?

Please go easy on me... My children are 9 & 6, we've been married 13 years & I love my Dh to bits :) I love him so much, I don't ever want him to have to go through this if I'm going to regret it :(

I don't want to regret it, but how do I come to terms with what's best for our little family?

I have 2, definitely don't want any more and neither does dh. The snip has never crossed our minds.

Why resort to such a permanent solution? You never know what the future brings. God forbid, a child might die or we might get divorced ...

i'm pretty sure the snip would be a good idea for us but i freaked out at the prospect of NEVER, so opted for the coil. Having it fitted was bad, but not as bad as giving birth. It felt like less pressure on me emotionally, having a reversible option. And am almost certain not to get pregnant, which is a relief, because i was also freaking out every month at the prospect of another pregnancy. I do feel sad at the prospect of no more babies but not having to make an in-your-face decision has made that easier.

blue 'a child might die'

I am certain you dont mean to be insenstive,but I dont think you gave that a lot of thought.