I have one in particular. A cousin. We'll call her Louise (though that is not her name).
Louise is one of those people who makes me repeatedly come out with the phrase 'well, you can't choose your family'. She is quite rude, you have to work really hard to have a conversation with her and always have to bite your tongue. She asks to borrow money with no intention of paying it back, she hints around at unreasonable favours, her priorities are riduculously screwy. She is also committing benefit fraud. At times she makes my blood boil.
She is now hinting around for an invite at Christmas. At the moment, it's subtle (though I can see through the smoke as I'm so used to her ways), but I can see it's going to get worse over the next couple of weeks. She has mentioned how we have DCs close in age and how they can play together on the day (this part does sound reasonable, though I don't want to force DN into a high energy day when he might not want it). In reality, this will mean me running around after Louise and her DD all day, with Louise doing nothing. She will be wanting to come to me solely so she can drink and eat for free, knowing that I can't drink because I'm pregnant.
WIBU to say no to her coming to me? The drawbacks of having her there, aside from the above, are that this is mine and DN's first Christmas together and I want to be able to focus on him, not run around after a selfish relative who will not contribute practically or financially to the day. I would actually prefer a rather lowkey day for DN, as I'm not sure how he will feel (although seems to be excited at the moment :)).
I don't think IABU, but I want to know if I am before I am actually confronted with the direct question. I've tried to give as much information as possible so as not to make an AIBU by stealth, but for another Louise incident, this AIBU thread was also about her.
Btw, almost posted this in Chat but I'd rather get the ballbuster opinions!