to write a rude riposte to BIL? Let me know before I click send.

[Spidermama]

Two of my children, an 11 year old and a 12 year old, enjoy being on Facebook along with, it seems, most of their friends.

My Brother in law, who has no children of his own, has sent me the following message on FB (Names changed but otherwise copied and pasted)

" Spider - shouldn't the kids be min. 13yrs to be on FB?

My friend Joe Bloggs is using rich language for instance, so it has always bothered me that Spiderboy and Spidergirl are on my FB 'friends' list for this sort of reason.

The only thing is that, it seems rude to remove them (the kids). Links to Spiderboy's pictures of his 'bezzie', (best mate?) appeared on my news feed.

Can I speak frankly? I just don't think it is right. I'm thinking of deleting them."

I have written, but not yet sent, a reply saying it's fine for them to be on, he's wrong but he can delete them if he wants. I've also reassured him they have absolutely no interest in his sweary friend Joe Bloggs anyway. I have also included the odd sarcastic remark thanking him for his parenting advice. Should I leave out the sarcasm?

I am pretty pissed off with his patronising tone tbh. I won't mention that he's 44, single and back living with his mum.

Can I lol at Rachel..

"I am pretty pissed off with his patronising tone tbh. I won't mention that he's 44, single and back living with his mum."

And you are calling HIM patronizing?

He is giving you very sensible advice and caring for your children's wellbeing and safety.

To be honest, you are the one who is being patronizing, judgmental and unpleasant.

Sorry if I got this wrong, but aren't you (Spidermama) the MNer who let 4 of her 5 children get wild measles, and had to defend yourself against a lot of media flack? I would have thought after that that brushing off a well-meaning comment from your BIL would be a Walk in the Park.

Apologies if I've got you confused with someone else.

If BIL was BU, wouldn't he just report the children for being underage? Instead of asking to unfriend them?

YABU, He is being sensible.He is trying to protect your children

YABU and nuts.

Also well done Rachel , thought MNHQ had been fighting for a minute there!

I was so hoping that Rachel had said something mean and had been ticked off by Justine etc... Is that wrong of me? :o

YABU to be arsey with your BIL for caring about his neice/nephew.

Sorry, I'm another one who thinks YABU. I'd email him back to say "Thanks for your concern, I take your point. Delete them and I'll explain to them why."

YABVU

people post all kinds of things inappropriate/unsuitable for children in their feeds and it's up to you to protect them from it.

constance I was hoping that too! It amused me quite a lot

Maybe it´s not to do with his friend-who, as we know if settings are at "friends only" cannot be seen by OP´s children, but that BIL himself wants to post without worrying about what he puts.

But rather than just defriend has tried to be diplomatic.

So, OP you can think for yourself? Why come on an internet site and ask a bunch of strangers to make such a ridiculous decision for you then? Use your common sense for heavens sake.