Not to cook Christmas dinner - DH is saying I am

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As I've already had one post today telling me that I was unreasonable - I am prepared for the second.

My nuclei of a family is four - due to nature of family work/distances etc, my plan for christmas day is as follows:

Leisurely morning, nice cold buffet lunch (ham, bread, chocolates, sweets, nibbles)

3pmish go to elderly PILs for afternoon tea, taking cakes, mince pies etc with us.

5pmish go to my mother's, who due to her business, will have turkey and all the trimmings, and has said she'll feed us then.

This is supposedly where I am being unreasonable in DH's eyes, because we won't want christmas dinner then will we, because we'll already have eaten it in the day.

I said no, because of the cold lunch, which he knew about, and me not being bothered to cook all the trimmings for christmas lunch, when we can get 5* (literally) quality food, for free.

He has no problem with going to mum's and how much time we spend there, but is adament I should do christmas dinner at lunch time because that's when christmas dinner is. Who of us is BU?

I am sure this is of no use whatsoever but we have a Cooked breakfast around 9ish (when children were little they would eat earlier)chocolates etc inbetweenthen Xmas Dinner around 3.It works for us as we can do our visiting/receiving visits inbetween meals I can't honestly remember how this happened it just sort of evolved over the past 21yrs and 6 little darlings...You will find your own compromise,my DH also used to think that Xmas lunch was supposed to be eaten ar 1pm

YANBU he should do it if he's so bothered.

We aren't, and won't be for many years, having Xmas dinner on the day - my family come up on boxing day and that's when we do the whole roast with trimmings etc. Xmas day is just for us and our DCs and we just eat whatever we fancy, and indulge ourselves thoroughly a bit.

YANBU. We usually have lunch about 2pm, but have been to friends who have it in the evening - works fine, although I would rather eat it c6/7pm than the 9pm that once happened. Spent the day starving and was past it by the time the food arrived!

YANBU.
Some friends of mine always do a cold lunch and finger food instead o a cooked meal.
My DP would love your Christmas Day, he hates a big lunch.

we have ours at night no set time for dinner here.

I believe it's unanimous OP :o

Hang on.

Your DH is being provided with a christmas dinner.

Which he does not have to cook.

What the fuck is his problem?

three words

Marks and Spencer

ok

three more

and a microwave

You could put it all in a coolbox for a Christmas Eve treat -

For Christmas Day

For him

Have you shown your DH this thread OP?

We all think he is WRONG WRONG WRONG!!!

So what, cooking is your job because you have a vagina?

If he wants it so badly, he can do it himself.

Not even read thread and I guarantee I'm simply echoing every other post

Your Dh sounds pretty barking, tbh. Why on earth would you cook a Christmas meal when you've been invited out for it? It's like being invited round to friends for a big roast dinner and cooking yourself a huge roast for lunch the same day. Daft.

If he's that desperate, he can shop for it, prep it, cook it and clean up after it.

If I could be bothered I'd cut and paste Tolalola's last sentence.

Such entitlement!!!!

YANBU. We always have Christmas dinner at er dinner time in my family. I have never understood why people want to start cooking at 7 am and then what you do with the afternoon if you stuff yourself senseless with food and booze at lunchtime.

YANBU. You are having a Christmas dinner in the evening so you won't want one at lunch time. We have ben known to have curry on Christmas day and that is a reheated take waway, That's not as bad as it sounds. There is a place roundhere that sells freshly made curries which are chilled, We then heat them in the microwave on for Christmas Dinner, The DC's all love that and DH is adament that no one spends Christmas morning slaving away in the kitchen.

YANBU buy him a turkey ready meal so he can have that and feel a fool.

Ohhh i didnt knwo there was a set-time for Christmas dinner! When is it? Over the years ive eaten anytime between 2pm and 6pm!

Your dh is being unreasonable. Many many families will be waiting until 4pm or later for their Christmas "lunch" without a cold buffet to sustain them and afternoon tea after that!

Why does your mum happen to have Christmas dinner becuse of her business?

Will you all be sitting down to a proper Christmas dinner, which means family round the table, crackers, wine etc or will you be eating left-overs without ceremony?

Is it really the food he's complaining about (if so YANBU) or is he upset about missing the "occasion" of Christmas Dinner (then YABU, but he should help cook!)

I suspect she runs a five star hotel or restaurant?

Can someone please tell my PIL that christmas dinner is at lunch time, we always have it at 4pm but don't get offered any lunch.........

CarGirl,

Do you ask for a bite to eat at lunch time?

If you don't ask, I don't see how you can complain. Have you read any of the posts in this thread - they are saying the exact OPPOSITE to what you are requesting back-up for.

AT BEST, you'll get Christmas Dinner is served whenever it's ready. If that happens to be 4pm, so be it. Why don't you and the OP's DH get together and have your meal on the dot of 12, and the rest of us will have ours a bit later!!!

To agree with everyone else, your DH is being totally bonkers, why on earth would you make a Christmas dinner at lunchtime when you're having it at 5pm, tell him to stop being so damn greedy!!!

I will join the choir and say YANBU

But I would go with the turkey ready meal for him if it means that much

If you're cooking (and presumably doing the shopping and cleaning up afterwards), then you decide what to make. If he doesn't like it, he can cook something else. Seriously he sounds like a big child, demanding to sit there and be fed exactly what he wants at the exact time he wants it.

Your plan sounds fine and sensible to me.

YANBU

Your DH seems to have lost all sense of logic and sense and in his desperate attempt to cling onto a (childish?) notion of exactly what should happen on Christmas day.