To think this facebook status update (yes, facebook!) is whiny and self indulgent

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Have a 'friend' on facebook who I actually never see but often see her posts on facebook so vaguely know what's going on in her life.

She's got two under 3s - a toddler and a baby.

She recently posted a long write up of an example of her day so we could "all see what life is like for me with two children".

It was literally a blow by blow account of her pretty tedious day, e.g.

7AM get kids up
7.15 AM make breakfast

yadda yadda.

I've got little ones too (and I can't imagine anyone would be even slightly interested in the minituae of my day).

I just read it and thought... "and?..."

Anyway, is that not a bit whiny and self indulgent posting like that as though you're doing a job no one else could understand and you want a medal or something?

I'm in a bad mood today and I'm probably being a bit harsh, but she's got hundreds of friends on there and I'm sure they don't post every single last details of their day! Maybe they do?!

Um, mrsbabookaloo, facebook nonce or facebook novice? Nonce is slang for a paedophile, so I'm hoping the latter...

Silly Yuno, anyone who's anyone knows that facebook is for spying on ex-boyfriends [grins]

Although in fairness I would rather read about Danny's pushchair than have to hide anymore 'farm/fish/mafia/cafe invitations'!

yabu. fb would be virtually silent if self-indulgent statuses weere absent...

I deleted a couple of Mummy bores (and got slammed once on this forum for using the term 'Mummy bores' ) before I realised you could just hide people from your news feed.

I have a baby and a toddler (under 2) and I get woken at 7AM and consider myself bloody lucky!!! I

YABU. She is moaning to her friends. If you are not her friend, take her off your list.

Yes, but with people like that, she'd immediately update her status to bitch about "Oh well, I know who my real friends are, nudge nudge, innuendo wink wink" and then bombard you with PMs asking in PrincessDianaMartinBashirInterview mode "what have I doooooone?"

It can sometimes be less hassle to keep them.

Self important needy post on FB make me want to smash my PC in two or block people (easier option).

I also have a friend like this. She seems to think she's the only mother in the world and that everyone should think she's a wonder woman. Yesterday's status "Mad, crazy as ever with my brood. Left the house at 8.15. It's now 3 and I've only just got in". Ugh.

The OP said that she never actually sees this friend, therefore she can ignore any PMs and will not know about any bitching that is going on about her as she will not be seeing this friend's news feed.

It is not less hassle to keep them, it is mean to keep them as friends but actually find them boring and say as much.

Why people over the age of 15 have such trouble with fb I'll never know.

Threads like this scare me because to be honest, I don't have a lot else going on but my two under-3s so I don't post a lot that isn't about them! Does that make me boring?

SleepWhenImDead Most people are only friends on fb with actual friends and are interested to hear what is going on in their lives. I would hate to hear about random children but like anecdotes my friends post. As long as you actually know all your fb friends, don't worry about it

Ooh, she sounds good fun! I don't know which is worse though - FB statuses like the one mentioned in the OP or ones continuously saying, "X is pissed again" or "X has a hangover again" or "X only just got up and is feeling rough coz was drunk last night!" Booooring! You're not big or clever or fun, just shut up! Or maybe I'm jealous because I can't remember the last time I was drunk!

I have a friend who posted about having two under two and literally said "I don't know how I do it"

Emm...your Mum is there 3 days out of 5! I'll keep my praise for single parents and people who have no family help!

at facebook nonce!

I have actually set up a list of people who I think are a bit more interested in my children and tend to post stuff only other parents would find interesting as filtered by this list. Think it saves me from being really hated. But it's lonely as a SAHM whose children are driving you mad not to be able to share it with someone.

Wish more people would set up groups for things like sharing the baby photos and the like (more than anything else - do you really want them going out to just the "friend collectors"?).

The ones that strike me as desperately sad are those who seek validation for the fact that yes, they're actually having a great life, via facebook updates and their friends clicking the like button. I've mentioned before the one who would get her husband to reply to her status updates (from the same room within a 30 second timeframe) about how fabulous she was... she didn't seem to be able to do ANYTHING in her life without her FB cheerleading crew telling her it was ok and she was fantastic - which was incredibly sad, and that, coupled with the overuse of the 98% won't copy and paste this addiction led to me defriending her (I don't tend to block people's updates because I like to keep track over who has access to my feed and things). The one that does continually cause me pain is scan photos and the fact that everytime someone comments or likes a photo, it bounces back up in your friends feed - I wish they'd add a toggle to autoload thumbnails of images off (more than anything else it would speed the site up on my mobile). You get braced for the initial sting of the photo loading knowing the date's coming, then it bounces up for like the next four weeks - usually when you're at your lowest - I adblock a lot of images out of FB feeds these days.