To think this facebook status update (yes, facebook!) is whiny and self indulgent

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Have a 'friend' on facebook who I actually never see but often see her posts on facebook so vaguely know what's going on in her life.

She's got two under 3s - a toddler and a baby.

She recently posted a long write up of an example of her day so we could "all see what life is like for me with two children".

It was literally a blow by blow account of her pretty tedious day, e.g.

7AM get kids up
7.15 AM make breakfast

yadda yadda.

I've got little ones too (and I can't imagine anyone would be even slightly interested in the minituae of my day).

I just read it and thought... "and?..."

Anyway, is that not a bit whiny and self indulgent posting like that as though you're doing a job no one else could understand and you want a medal or something?

I'm in a bad mood today and I'm probably being a bit harsh, but she's got hundreds of friends on there and I'm sure they don't post every single last details of their day! Maybe they do?!

Because I agree with Mjin and think you're being harsh.

Besides this is AIBU, somebody has to think YABU or you'll get smug.

Harsh I can take, that's what I asked!

Those "oh it's your fault for getting cross" when someone isn't even cross stock AIBU responses are so lame though. I mean, offer an actual opinion you know? As you finally have done. Well done

Mj - think you could be right there.

she needs more babies....that will fill her time and she will forget to write, and maybe even forget to come onto FB, at least until thay are teens, and then she can find new stuff to rant about, like how hellish they are and how in need of wine she is

Oh it drives me up the wall when people can only post about their children! It may be the most important thing in your life, but get a grip and realise that noone else gives a flying frog that you 'converted darling Danny's pushchair from pram to upright today' (actual status update!)

If my DD does or says something particularly amusing or important i may post, to tell family or whatever, but I doubt many of my friends give a shit if she's done a poo poo in her potty, so i refrain

You are possibly one if the most easily annoyed posters I have had the misfortune to tell they are BU.

No wonder you find her irritating.

psycho- no she won't, she'll just whine even more, like somebody had forced her to have more babies that she couldn't cope with against her will or sump'n.

I find the whole living-life-through-FB people, dull, dull, dull.

I think we must all have these people- the minute by minute updates of tedium....the whinging about every sniffle.....the which-pram-shall-I-buy next yawnsomeness.

Says Bucharest, who updated her FB status last week only once, to rave about the gorgeousness of Take That.

On a more serious note, why do people do this?

Is it a desire for validation? Having possibly gone from woman out in the world to the smaller world of domesticity. Does that leave a gaping void in a person's self esteem that chucking snippets of your supposed good parenting/baby;s milestones into the ether fills?

What do you get out of it?

I say that as I've never participated in social networking.

I have two friends who post about every little thing their babies have done... which has made me vow to post about a) when I'm pregnant, and b) when I have the baby. If people want to know more, they will ask! (I may eat my words but still don't think I will get to recording on FB every time said baby rolls over / has injection / eats / wakes me up)

(Incidentally I have many more friends who just get on with their lives and post the occasional photo of DC, which is far more interesting!)

I think it is a need for validation. I do find, the people on my friend's list who do this update-of-nothingness thing do seem to be people with perhaps low self-esteem, or who think other people are more satisfied with their life choices.

Or they're just boring fuckers I suppose.

I do find it a bit passive-aggressive at times as well, when people spend all day Sunday telling you their fantastic roast is in their fantastic oven and their fantastic child has romped through the dah-ling Autumn leaves and is now playing with his wooden-from-sustainable-forests playset. I mean, I do a roast, but I don't feel the need to ram it, even metaphorically, down anyone else's gob.

Note: the roast people aren't the same as th timetabled whinging ones. They're just as annoying though!

I sometimes get a bit like this - it is all linked to the sheer amount of people who keep telling me to get a job (I do actually have a job, but it somehow doesn't count as it is part time) or who keep saying how lucky I am to not have to do anything all day.

Plus, well if you have a job, you get to chat rubbish with your workmates, why can't we do that with other SAHMs?

Also, sometimes it feels like you do nothing all day, but having some kind of list validates it all somehow.

Plus, if your kids do lovely things and you are the only person to see it, it feels like you should share. My family love my updates, and several of my friends post how lovely the pictures are.

I'm going back to full time next week anyway, so that's the end of that.

otchayaniye, I think some people just get so overwhelmed with having children. They love their children and they're their whole world (understandably) they just mistakenly believe that everyone else cares as much as them!

Oh LaWeasel, I'm touched, an opinion! One of your very own! Really, well done

lol bucharest

am now sat here at the tickets tho

Oh I love other people's pics of their children, specially new babies. I quite like funny status updates about them, or milestones like birthdays.

It's the - I'm going to talk you through my day minute by minute note that then gets pinned to my wall somehow (I still don't get how she did that?) that I find odd. Would someone do that if they were a barrister? a postman? a checkout operator? a banker? Just wondered if it was as odd to everyone else as it seemed to me.

I would have to stop myself from making comments like "You swept at 12.30? I swept at 4.43! OMG! LOL!"

Yes, but 300 new photos of a child in exactly the same sat-in-bouncy-chair position that he was in last week when you had to "like" another 300????

I just find myself "liking" absolutely everything these days. One day it'll bite me on the bum. "My husband left me, the cat died, dd aged 13 has run off with a sailor and ds has been expelled" Like

I thought that Twitter was for the minutiae of life!

I use FB to post pics & message friends.

Have never posted a status or anything on my wall(?)

People must think that I´m boring as fuck, but I don´t care.

I guess we all use FB in different ways, so Ithink YABU.

She can post what she wants & you can read it or not imo.

Good point Diddl, thanks.

You´re welcome, OP

lottiejenkins: thanks so much for telling us how to hide people's posts!

I am a facebook nonce, and had not figured this out, but now, Thank God!

Am off to do it now to several facebook over-informers. Then I might get to see the posts of people I am actually interested in, who only post once every couple of days as opposed to once every time they fart.

I like knowing that darling Danny is now in a sitting-up pushchair, and that my old mate Helen is mopping her floor, and that Jenny's kids have got into the sudocreme, and Sue is wondering if it's wine-o-clock yet.

I thought that was what facebook was for.

Are you lot all using it for terribly important things, for these unimportant little updates about people's days to be getting in your way?