To have just hit the roof and screamed at DH?

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I am 40 weeks pregnant and this evening DH went for a drink after work. He said he would only have one drink but came home quite tipsy. I feel very disappointed as if I had gone into labour this evening he would be too drunk to drive me to the hospital and would be embarrassing at the hospital. I appreciate he just won a big contract for his company and wanted to celebrate but I specifically asked him not to drink. I hit the roof ..but AIBU?

hope the baby's ok now and that you recover too.

please dont blame yourself/your H for baby's distress. ask to have a post-birth consultation with a midwife to go over what happened before and during the birth and what can/did cause your baby's distress. probably nothing you/your H could have done differently.

you got a lovely baby now - you need to work together .

What was his reaction to it afterwards?

Also, you sound like you are in a bit of a bad way physically and emotionally too, are you putting your feelings about it onto him for what he did that night, when actually you are traumatised by the birth?

It is very unlikely that him getting drunk and you getting angry about it is what caused labour, for a first birth it can start days before you get any symptoms. The same applies to the meconium staining. It may be though that you being in early labour was what pushed you over the edge regarding him being tipsey that night. I have been uber sensitive the day or so before my babies came and I was pissed off with the whole world.

I had very traumatic birth experience with DC3 and can highly recommend "Birth Crisis" by Shelia Kitzinger. She also runs a phone line if you feel that talking about it will help.

Saffy85-I'm a nurse and have absolutely no idea what a "real" cold compress is! A cold compress is anything that can be held under the cold tap without disintegrating

I very much doubt him getting piddled caused you to go into labour and the baby be distressed. These things happen, my OH did many nobberish things like this but my DD still wasnt forced out...

I very much doubt your DH getting a bit pissed made your baby pass meconium, or fo into labour for that matter.

He was a bit U (think I said as much back in November) but you can't pin your traumatic labour on him.

Bogeyface is talking a lot of sense, btw.

Your dh was a twit to get drunk but the incident did not cause you to go in to labour. Neither did it cause the meconium. Our bodies don't work that way.
It sounds like you ha d a tough time and you should get some help with understanding that. Blaming you dh - even though he was a twit - is really not going to help any of you move forward.

Woops. I see this is an old thread. Well I hope that everything is all going well now.