christmas and in laws

[MerrilyDefective]

I really,really know that christmas is a difficult time...
I have Out laws that i cannot stand...
But....
If your Pils are ok, then let them have a bit of time with your children at Christmas.
It's only one special day a year.....they love your partner,he is their son,they could learn to love you too....
But they do love their Grandchildren.
Don't forget that you may one day be the,
MIL FROM HELL

Oh yes - and sometimes you might have people in your life that want to give a suprise gift from themselves and not pretend it's from Santa.

And yor point is?

Oops,'Your'....

I can safely say I will not be the MIL from Hell.

You'd better hope not.

I feel the same Merrily - my MiL can irritate the hell out of me, but I've invited her to stay with us for Christmas this year as my children adore her (and she them).

Sometimes you have to let the ash drop off

My point is that the same people whinging about in-laws are usually the ones that can't accept presents from anyone but 'santa'. In-Laws can be infuriating, I know, but there are so many bigger issues in the world.

Yes,Yes,Yes.
I can't freaking stick my MIL.

The thought of never seeing my DC's children chills my heart.
I would be the MIL from HEAVEN and suck up for ever to see my Grandchildren.

Maybe.

I think i'm panicking a little as i don't think DIL likes us very much..
But we do like her.

Well the mere fact that you're on here musing the possibility makes you self aware and therefore probably ok

The thing is, when I am a MIL I won't impose myself on people. I will wait to be asked. I will make the whole thing as easy as possible. I won't expect to stay unless I am asked to.

Thankyou,3 beagles,
I cannot stand my Inlaws,
But,when my DS has children,what do i do when DIL doesn't like me.

If that's how they want to do it then fine. I think that's weird but fine.

I wouldn't drive homoe, I would ger a B&B ;)

I am glad I have a dd! I am going to especially lovely for the next 20 years or so

MIL doesn't show any interest in the children, which is why we spend 2 hours on Boxing Day with them.
Has been like that for 14 years.
Dh and FIL don't even like her

MIL is a grade one cow OTOH FIL and SMIL are amazing I adore both of them and they both treat our 3 children the same as their other grandson. MIL treats our 3 like scum as DH had a different father from her younger kids their kids are spoilt but its the fact that she ignores ours unless she's after something that gets on my nerves.

I've got 3 sons. I am going to be as wonderful as my MIL is, and my DIL/SIL's will adore me and buy me flowers and wine.

My MIL is amazing! I would do anything for that woman and she adores me and our DS...she gets as involved as we want her to. Considering she lives 2mins away things could be so much worse!
FIL is great too...so laid back he's horizontal!
She doesn't treat all 4 of her kids the same for various (justified) reasons but luckily my partner seems to be her (only) blue eyed boy so we have it pretty great!

BonniePrinceBilly - if i ever have a son i too will be a wonderful MIL and my DIL will buy me chocolates and cakes.

MerrilyDefective - why do you think your DIL doesn't like you? if your son and she ever have children then i'm sure you'll play a big part in their lives. if your son is a good man then he will see to that.

for the record i love my MIL, sometimes i don't like her very much though as she is interfering (re-arranges my cupboards, tells me what to do etc...) but no matter what, she will always be in my DD's life, she is her grandmother and has every right to be.

I think this is why I generally agree with you BonniePrinceBilly-I have 3 DSs and am waiting to be a wonderful MIL!