Is my friend being unreasonable comparing a miscarriage to

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being bullied at work?

I fell out with said friend a while back when she was totally unsympathetic about my miscarriage.

I didn't want to have a D&C so the physical and hormonal aspects of it lasted over a month during which time I got zero suport from her.

Now, some time later, she has got in touch by text. I apologised for being short with her but I got no apology from her in return. She said she was 'also going through a lot at the time'. I thought this must have meant some serious health problem or similar with her or her family but later realised she was referring to the problems she is having with her boss. I know office politics can be horrid (I've been in tears in the office toilets myself before) but I think she is being EXTREMELY insensitive by comparing this to my miscarriage. She can choose to quit her job (she doesn't need the money), I had no choice in what happened to me. We both suffered psychological trauma but at least she didn't have all the physical and hormonal aspects on top of that too.

I dont really need a friend like this do I?

Great depth of argument PrinceBilly, describing others' pov as "moronic" and "bonkers". That'll help with the reasoned discussion no end.

I stand by it. It is utterly bonkers to tell someone that have objectively measured their pain level and that don't hurt as much as you.

And if you thinks that ok to do, you're bonkers too.

I think there is an objective difference between the events, not the pain level.
I agree with you that that can't be measured. Still think you are unnecessarily unpleasant and aggressive though

Some selective reading there.

Bonnieprincebilly - you are coming across as slightly unhinged.

really? Where did you get your psychology training, the armchair university?

UCL actaully (funnily enough) but I'm simply using my observational skills

well done you, I am more than slightly unhinged. And also a psychology major.