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to think this is a health & safety hazard or I don't have a (legal) leg to stand on?

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RedHeels · 20/11/2010 18:27

I rent a first floor flat in a converted house where there is also only a ground floor flat. An elderly lady owns that flat and the landing outside my door belongs to her property too.

The neighbour keeps her walking frame outside my door, on the landing, which she doesn't use (she told me that plus I've never seen the thing moved and I'm in and out a lot as I work from here). 12 months ago we had a conversation about the frame as I thought it was a health and safety hazard as when I open my door and come out, there is a space of about 40 cm and then there is the frame. The landing outside my door is also taken up by the meters cupboard and her flat door is opposite the front door, the distance is maybe a meter. So whenever I come in and out I bump into the frame (not too mention the times when I have my shopping with me). Back then she said she was willing to take it in, but in the end I told her not to worry and that I don't mind, it being there (she's 80-something so I thought if it was more convenient for her, then be it, etc).

Now I knocked on her door, to let her now that I will be having a baby in 2 weeks and whether she could put her frame inside as I simply won't be able to wheel the pram out of my door to come out. I thought, in the light of the previous conversation, that my request was quite sensible. Before I finished speaking, I was told it's not her fault I'm pregnant Shock and if I am pregnant I should not be living here. She said she won't move it and how do I dare to tell her what to do with her property. The old bat made my cry and finally I told her the frame just has to go.

When I want to wheel the pram out, I will have to pick her frame, move it outside the front door, wheel the pram outside and then put the frame back in. I even offered to put it in my loft but now apparently she uses the frame after the exercise (as I said, the frame is always there so that's not true but I guess it is beside the point). I will be calling my estate agent and the council on Monday but would appreciate any advice you might be able to give me in the meantime.

OP posts:
StealthPomBear · 21/11/2010 20:40

Hang on - is the old lady her landlady?
Confused

maryz · 21/11/2010 20:41

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

StealthPomBear · 21/11/2010 20:41

and bum biting zimmer frames?
Is that a new gadget?

scoobytoo · 21/11/2010 20:42

I don't think the old lady is the landlady

RedHeels · 21/11/2010 20:46

cumfy - she doesn't own my flat so she doesn't have anything to do with me renewing the tenancy. Or I didn't understand what you meant?

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cumfy · 21/11/2010 20:48

Oh OK. Sorry.

If RedHeels isn't renting from her (directly or indirectly) then that's a different kettle of fish.
Don't know where I picked that up from.
Probably, confused with her "owning" the hallway.

cumfy · 21/11/2010 20:48

xpost

harecare · 21/11/2010 21:02

Red Heels, don't send your note it'll make her cross and is just extending an argument and getting the last word. By the sounds of things her note was as much of an apology as you are going to get from her. By saying she has been ill she is trying to explain her behaviour to you.
Who cares that she says you demanded and didn't ask - you know the truth. At the end of the note she says that she is willing to compromise, focus on that, not whether she thinks you demanded.
Be the adult, dust the past away and use flowers/chocolates and kindness to get her onside.

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