to think my friend isn't being a friend over this?

[Notterrysmine]

When Take That tickets went on sale, I asked lots of people if they had any spare tickets, whether I could buy two off them.

One friend bought 16 of them, and contacted me the minute she got them, to see whether I still wanted the 2 before she offered them to other people. I said yes please, and paid her for them. The tickets are standing tickets, i.e. not allocated seating.

The weekend after was my daughter's birthday and I let her know as her present she was going to see Take That.

A few days later, my friend asked who I was going with to Take That, and I said my daughter, she said 'oh' and the conversation shortly came to an end.

She then phoned me up a few days later, and said that by taking my daughter (who'll be 15 so not young child) with me it'll change the whole dynamics. And I said, no if they want to go out before or after that's absolutely fine, and my dd and I will be alright, and as I don't any of the other 13 people going, I'm happy to be part of the group or not.

Well friend ended call in a huff, and said I was ruining the day, and hasn't spoken to me since.

Have IBU?

What Runaway said.

She is BU not to speak to you but think she has right to be p'd off.

She obv had a type of night planned - she should have asked you who 2nd ticket was for but as a childless person it prob didn't occur that anyone would bring a child.

I'd call again and say sorry for the misunderstanding, you still want tickets but is her choice if she wants them back. Puts ball in her court to show what kind of friend she really is.

15 isn't a young child and there is no risk of misbehaviour spoiling it.

But 15 isn't that old either. Taking her on a night out would mean adults have to watch their language and their topics of conversation around her which I think is unfair to be honest. That is if you can hear each other over the noise.

I know it's just a misunderstanding between you both so it doens't need to escalate. I would just offer to keep seperate from them at the event. Your daughter would probably prefer to be just with mum if it's a birthday treat rather than with a load of strangers.

I go to concerts a lot, and have been to see TT on their last 2 tours. Trust me - you won't even see your friend there if you're standing. There will be hundreds of people milling about. Just make your own arrangements and go along just the 2 of you - it'll be fab! And your friend is being a big dafty.