To be curious what you would tell your 16 yr old self now?

[WannabeNigella]

Just wondered really, if you could just pass on one little nugget of wisdom to yourself at 16, what would it be?

Inspired by a trending topic on Twitter just in case any of you saw it.

Be kind to your brother, he is not going to around for long :(

Have confidence in yourself, you are doing ok. Stop worrying what other people think and do what makes you happy.

Erm, not one for twitter there. I am not clever enough

Oh and the love of your life.. Is gay.

Oh and the love of your life.. Is gay.

Whensitgunnahappen, my good friend at school could say the same. We used to sit around lamenting the closed-mindedness of our small town for always assuming he was just because he was so artistic and sensitive and well-dressed. Oh well.

ALWAYS trust your instincts, you are not being paranoid, hormonal or anything else, but tuned in, LISTEN & act on it

Keep a diary, & never be too proud or embarrassed to take photos of the people you meet along the way, in fact take LOTS of photos. & guard them well, you never know they might make good book on day

Don't let being compassionate become being a "sucker for a sob story" & don't waste too much time on emotional vampires & manipulative people & its okay, that can include your Mother too.

Down to earth is good, but when it comes to fashion & art, bullshit works FAR better, so don't be to down to earth to play the game.

Never allow a Guy, or needy friend or parent make you miss a good opportunity for life experience, work or travel, its your life & if they are worth keeping, wont try & stop you.

& don't be too nice, its okay to run off with someones boyfriend when you know they are already doing the dirty on them, you will end up marrying them anyway, & it will mean you will have time to have more than 1 child.

1. Stop eating so much sugar, you don't need it.

1. Become a school refusenik and insist your parents send you somewhere less disaster prone and badly run. Your school is going to close down soon anyway. You are right, it is crap and some of the teachers are mental.

1. Apply to Oxford not Cambridge, and apply to do something you haven't remotely done at A Level. Have fun in the interview and take charge more.

1. Smile more and get rid of that fringe.

don't do a media studies degree

Don't be scared of boys and DO go out with them. ..and for Gods sake stand up straight. 5'9 is a GOOD thing!!..

Oh and yes of course Mum and Dad are right - you need to start your revision!!

If his last wife divorced him for DV avoid him like the plague. Its not worth finding out whether she was a lying psycho or if she was telling the truth. (She was probably telling the truth).

When you are 16 and one month old and you sleep with your boyfriend ...PLEASE PLEASE use a condom.

Dear Stropi,

Don't go out with a married man who is old enough to be your dad.

Leave home immediatley, your parents are crap and your brother is a knob.

Go to college and uni, you are a clever girl.

Enjoy your volumptous figure - you look good ggirl. In a few years you will have more curves ie be fat and have stretchmarks.

Save like mad and buy a cheap house, they will soo expensive in years to come.

You will find your soul mate and have a wonderful family. You will be happy.

Your biology teacher is a perv and you don't "have" to stay behind after every lesson.

In the summer wear short skirts and shorts , trust me do it now because when your 30 you wont be able to get away with it.

Tell your mother shes a lazy git that should get off her arse and light her own fags, and do some fucking housework..amongst other stuff..Make her get psyciatric help. Phone the ss , and get your brothers away from them.

Tell your dad fuck off and stop lying to family.

Stay away from G ,hes very very bad news.

Realise , just because someone isnt verbally abusive does not mean they are nice...it usually means they are better at hiding their adjenda.

Dont drop out of uni....finish your business admin and tourism. Your mother is being a cunt, its not useless , its not just to pour coffee as she said.Shes . She`ll make you feel it was a waste of time so you would stay at home and clean her shit.

Go find your auntie , live with her .

And tell your sister to stay in aberdeen.

Don't listen to your mother and don't go to university you will hate it. It's not your fault she didn't have the chance to go.

You will never look more beautiful.

Spend more time with your darling uncle, he's not around for much longer.

Dear 16 year old 2blessed,
You are as slim as you are ever going to be - stop wearing your dads jumpers and show off your size 6 thighs a bit. Don't worry about that group of girls that are picking on you, they quite spectacularly get their comeuppance - be prepared to wait a bit for it though.
Don't snog that Xander guy, he does prefer your sister, and he's a bit of an arse anyway. DO NOT LIGHT THAT CIGARETTE.
Do stick with Aileen, you two are still going to be as thick as thieves even when you get to your 40's.
And finally, when that dark haired guy in the disco asks you out...jump to it...oh wait, you do!

I often wish I could go back and tell myself

To actually do some work at school

Not to hang around with the dodgy kids just because i want to fit in somewhere - nice people will like me

Not to believe everything my mum said about my Dad and to keep in contact with him

Not to move out and marry at 16 with the 26 year old jobless twat and instead stay at home

Not to then drop out of college but to stay on and go to uni

Not to plan to have his baby at 17 but to wait until I'm a grown up

Not to leave (d)h and meet another man within 2 weeks!

Not to think that dangerous and fun = stability and love

Not to marry him just because he's there

Not to take on another woman's child full time

Not to think I have to cope with everything on my own

Oh Kate, if I could spare you the pain of the next few years I would, but I can't. You are going to have to be stronger than you can yet imagine and I can't stop that for you, I'm sorry. It will impact your life permanently and you are going to have to learn how to manage that so that it doesn't take you with it. Please do trust that little nugget of steel deep down inside yourself, because you can do this.

However you are going to need a rocket up your backside once or twice as you have an awful tendancy to laziness and avoidance that will not stand you in good stead - take this letter out and re-read it every so often! You also have a tendancy to selfishness and introspection that also drags you down, keep a lid on it. Force yourself to socialise and make friends - they do not have to be life long, that's perfectly okay, some people are for a season other's just for a reason; remember that.

There's so much more I could say, but in short, life often sucks, it's not always what we imagine and hope it will be. But it's right here, right now. You won't get a second chance so live the best way you know how, every day. You are basically a good and decent person.

PS - Drop french A level and take philosophy. You would never regret it, I promise.

Nothing really I was awesome at that age. It's my 18/19 year old self that needs telling. He's the one who blew out his knee and then drank during his recovery so he got fat for a couple of years and missed out on his best years as an athlete.

It's all about to get so much better. SOO much better. You won't believe how much better it will be.

Don't take A level subjects you don't really, really love for some half-baked 'career' reason. Do what you love, you know you're too lazy to do anything else.

People like and love you for who you are, not because you're 'clever.' It's okay to fail.

Your sister's an insecure as you are. Team up with her now, so you don't fight her later.

It's okay to have no sex. Or lots of sex. Both of these things are okay.

When you meet him, you'll know. You're really good at trusting your instincts on stuff like this, so relax. You're not going to miss out on the good stuff. It's coming and you're going to love it.

Oh, and you're going to have a son one day. Doesn't that blow your mind? And everything will suddenly have been worthwhile.

Keep on reading "that feminist stuff" - it'll keep you right.

Stop it (you know what) and don't bother with college go apply for jobs in the games industry now.

Stop moping about the Boy who broke your heart, he will reappear in summer, you will sleep with him a couple of times, get him out of your system and move on (but you'll stay friends with him and go to his wedding!!).

Your friends are not all better looking than you. Dont envy your friends relationship - he's actually a scary possesive freak.

Don't start smoking - it'll take you 18 years to give up properly.

Oh, in 3 years do not get an ill advised perm your hair does not hold a curl even the aid of chemicals - you will look a twat!

Apart from that enjoy, enjoy, enjoy! When you look back in the future you won't have many regrets you'll just wish you'd appreciated your life more at the time.

You are not stupid. In fact, you are really quite intelligent. You just happen to be friends with two geniuses which makes you feel a bit thick in comparison.

Stay away from the Brown Acid, this will cause you to fall down some stairs and break your arm in 4 places.

Stay away from girls in "Wolf" t-shirts.

Don't make friends with the people in your Media Studies class, they will introduce you to heroin and make your life hell for 3 years.