to be slightly pissed off with MILs answer?

[CrazyPlateLady]

Ok, I'm sure you will all tell me that I am and I shouldn't expect it etc.

My MIL doesn't see that much of DS, very much on her terms, when she wants him, never to give a hand to us. She is fit and healthy and only works for 3 hours a day during the week.

My nan and grandad are in their 70s. Nan has arthritus and grandad has been getting aches and pains. They cannot do enough for us and are our only babysitters.

DH was talking to his mum last night when he was telling her that we are going to go and see the new HP film soon. I said to him we need to check how my nan is first (her arthritus has been playing up lately). DH said to him mum, something along the lines of could she babysit. She never has offered and DH has never asked her. She said she can't as she works in the evenings (5-8). DH didn't say anything else to that. I said to him after that I wasn't aware she was working weekends now (she isn't, we know that, but she didn't even ask what day we would be going on). DH done his usual of just not answering me.

It pisses me off that my GPs are a lot older, a lot less mobile and fit yet will bend over backwards for us (which I don't take advantage of at all, even though my nan would have DS anytime I asked her to), when MIL can't even be bothered to come over for a maximum of 3 hours for a weekend evening. DS is 2.9 ffs, we have never asked her before (I suspect DH hasn't because he had a feeling she wouldn't, she doesn't exactly put herself out for people).

[Rachyandmeg]

Hi crazy,

In an ideal world everyone would get along, family would be helpful and everyone would respect one another but that's never going to happen. everyone is brought up differently. Your mil may never have been brought up the way you have by your family. Maybe her mother wasn't hands on therefore she isn't with your kids etc. Evry1 is brought up so differently. Life changes can affect people and change them, some become bitter.
Its also difficult for you because its not your mother so I know what u mean about leaving it to him too deal with her.

[hairytriangle]

Yabu.

[rainbowinthesky]

I can understand why she doesnt want to if she works each day the rest of the week. Perhaps she genuiunely needs the 2 evenings off to herself. I dont know if you work or not but maybe her view is that if you dont work it's unfair for her to give up her nonwork time to look after your child. It would annoy me but nothing you can do.