To feel upset about being ridiculed?

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I recently invited some people to dinner, who I thought we got on well with.

They seemed quite genuine and we wanted to get to know them more so I invited them for dinner.

I'll admit that domesticity isn't my strong point - I work hard and I work long hours. Generally I don't bother with entertaining people at home, but if I like someone and think we have stuff in common and think they are genuinely nice then I think they'll overlook my culinary failings.

Anyway, to cut a long story short, I invited this couple over, we had a great time (so I thought). Then I found out from an acquaintance that the meal I'd cooked had been discussed and torn apart by a bunch of other mothers.

Worse still, these other mothers all got together to suggest ways to ridicule me when we were invited back to dinner. This extended even to making notes through the meal funny things to report back on and even googling so see how much the wine we brought cost (wtf?)

AIBU reasonable to think that this is quite a spiteful thing to do, or is this usual behaviour?

that's horrid, really really horrid :(

i'd be tempted to say something to them about it actually. how nasty

Did you serve macaroni cheese?

.... uh....pom bear?

YANBU

Sounds childish and I would suggest you just keep well away from them.

so, are you swingers or not then?

Thank you thisisyesterday. I thought it was horrible too.

Yet all these other mothers keep going on about it, making jokes about it and acting as though it's the funniest thing that's ever happened.

I'm really disappointed as I thought they were the kind of people who wouldn't condone that kind of behaviour.

Ahhhh, that's based on the bonkers couple thread innit ?

I'm sure they won't be offended, stop stirring

They are not worth giving another moment's thought to. Trying (desperately) to think of a silver lining for you, how about: at least you found out now what tossers they are before wasting any more of your time on them.

How did you find out?

Im thinking the pom bear thing :)

thought googling price of wine was a bit tho

That's awful

Is this a wind-up post? Oh please be cos' this is just super nasty if true.

Was it just the meal that was discussed with the other mothers, or were other things talked about? Do you and your husband share private jokes in other people's company for example?

I found out they kept going on about how they "liked us very much" etc etc whilst simultaneously slagging us off and trying to guess how much we'd spent on wine.

Just calm down and send Chopsy out for more turps - that'll take the edge off your pain

Hmm yes I thought it sounded family but wanted to give the benefit of the doubt

Cuckoo!

Ooops familiar not family

Do you have lots of turps? If so, why?

Just being devils advocate but your choice of name might indicate some reason for them being complete cow's?

Perhaps if you come across as a bit "high flying' they wanted to take you down a peg or two.I can't see why people would price check your wine otherwise.

Why did you think they'd be nice just out of interest?

Ere, ave a pombear

oh fgs, stop being cryptic

is this a wind-up or genuine? cos if it's a wind up i won't waste any more time

Sadly for you, you've said something in your OP that clearly tells me me this is an attempt to make me feel uncomfortable but you are not the couple in question. Instead of hiding, just come right out and tell me you thought I was spiteful/rude/whatever. I will thenofo you the coutesy of offering a genuine response.

Did these Pombear-offering oddballs have a cuckoo clock?

if not a wind up,dont worry his group of bitches will ALL take it in turns to be bitched/bitch about whether schools,jobs dc's,cars or peoples houses

please dont entertain them in any way again,the couple or these ghastly mothers