To feel upset about being ridiculed?

[highflyingcitytype]

I recently invited some people to dinner, who I thought we got on well with.

They seemed quite genuine and we wanted to get to know them more so I invited them for dinner.

I'll admit that domesticity isn't my strong point - I work hard and I work long hours. Generally I don't bother with entertaining people at home, but if I like someone and think we have stuff in common and think they are genuinely nice then I think they'll overlook my culinary failings.

Anyway, to cut a long story short, I invited this couple over, we had a great time (so I thought). Then I found out from an acquaintance that the meal I'd cooked had been discussed and torn apart by a bunch of other mothers.

Worse still, these other mothers all got together to suggest ways to ridicule me when we were invited back to dinner. This extended even to making notes through the meal funny things to report back on and even googling so see how much the wine we brought cost (wtf?)

AIBU reasonable to think that this is quite a spiteful thing to do, or is this usual behaviour?

I'd put money on it Ninks

SlightyJaded, I am not the person in your thread, no.

I just wondered if there were any normal, non-spiteful people on mumsnet. Glad to see there are some, sadly not enough.

this not his

is this a wind up or are you the couple accused of being bonkers from macaroni thread.

if not this is sad if growns up can honestly do this to someone in thier circle of friends. but i did find the macaroni thread funny, but wouldnt in a rl situation.

Pom Bear, anyone?

ffs this is clearly a wind up. My DH DID google the price of the wine - there were mitigating circumstances. Honestly though, far better to critize me directly. I am a big girl, I can take critisism, I can defend myself and you are more than entitled to your opininon. This charade however, is a bit ridiculous.

Blimey, I often wonder why I have no friends. This is is why I have no friends, people are shit. Ignore them, find people who aren't wankers (quite a search, I know).

How old are these people ? They sound like they are about 7 years old. Actually I think even my 7 year old would be better behaved than these people you have been unfortunate enough to meet.

How nasty and cruel can someone be ?
You have invited them to your home, entertained and fed them and I would bet been perfectly polite and lovely hosts. They sound horrible and if I were you I wouldn't be inviting them back or accepting any return invites either.

We have some friends who can cook quite well and some who when we meet for dinner order from the local chinese. What matters is the company not the food, where it came from or how much the wine costs. One of the best evenings out we ever had was beans on toast with plonk at a friend's home.

Bit egotistical there slightly jaded.

Ah ok thread about a thread, still ffs grow up.

I have to search for PomBears and Maccie Cheese don't I to make sense of this....?

Your hubby really googled the wine prices? Woweeee. This must have been some dinner...

No not really Lady - it's almost a verbatim what happened - but with an implication of spite that wasn't there.

Never mind, you can't please all the people all the time

I'm all out of Pom Bear, have a

Highflyingcity: please please be macaroni cheese woman-I desperately want to be your friend. We have a lot in common

This is an interesting thread - it proves that what goes around comes around.

I do find there is a strong element of bitchiness / nastiness / laughing at others expense on Mnet and its as disappointing to find it here as it is in real life, but as in real life I just can't find I have enough time for it, there's better things to do...

Slightlyjaded please can I have a glacé cherry with my turps and pom bears?

Oh I'm confused, and can't be arsed.

It seems a weird thread! On the face of it YANBU and they don't sound like people worth knowing.

Well, as far as I could see in the original thread (if that is what we are indeed talking about!) the meal wasn't "torn apart"- there was a bit of chuckling. And by the end of the thread everyone was unanimous in their affection for the Chopsies (I personally would love to meet them- they sound eccentric and lovely!) They weren't ridiculed, just discussed!

If, on the other hand, you are genuine, and other people have been genuinely nasty about you then you have my sympathies.

Ridicule:

Words or actions intended to evoke contemptuous laughter at or feelings toward a person or thing.

Pffft