Does it matter that dd's teacher consistently spells my (and consequently dd's) surname wrong?

[emkana]

And I don't mean Tailor instead of Taylor.

I mean completely wrong.

Along the lines of Postletwat instead of Postlethwaite

It would irritate me - have you pointed it out?

I would probably mention it to the teacher, she might have picked it up wrong at the start of the year and it just stuck? I would rather it was pointed out to me if I was the teacher

Yes it does matter.

No I haven't, feel like dd's teacher has already got me down as The Irritating One, and I don't know how to bring it up in a polite way.

It would matter to me....

I would tell her, otherwise it may stick forever throughout her school life.

One of ds's firends has a similar problem. He has a non-English name, nit terribly difficult to pronounce, but in recption his teacher didn't quite get the pronunciation right. He is now in year 5 and still gets the wrong pronunciation (both from teachers and from some of his friends)

I would ask the teacher to update their "records" as it appears that there is in error in the spelling of your name.

Yes it does and it doesn't matter if it's one letter or several letters. Tell her nicely the first time, firmly the second time and go mental the third time...

It took my friend 2 years to get the teachers to spell their surname right and it's a standard English surname!

Yanbu - My DS's first name is the Gaelic spelling of that name. Our surname is a pretentious variation on a well known welsh surname. (DH family - sheesh) We have heard and seen all manner of spelling and pronunciation. It was starting to really get DS down so we instructed him to correct anyone who gets it wrong.

However, the fact is that is your childs name and always will be. There are lots of children in each class with a myriad of diverse names and spellings but as this is the person who is teaching your child to spell amongst other things, bring it up with them tell them you would appreciate them getting it right for DC's sake.

Yes - you should tell her.

it would matter to me, especially on 'keep sakes' like certificates and special work

Yes it matters and she should get it right.
It's your name, and hers.
I have 3 children in my class with African surnames of 9+ letters, and two Sinhalese children with veeery long names. I have to check each time I write them down.
But check I do.

Totally agree with ChippingIn. We have a very 'English' name- no strange combinations of letters etc and DS's teacher last year could not get it right. Neither could the previous years teacher or the one the year before that. TBH it is spelled incorrectly 80% of the time by everyone! I'm used to correcting people (as is DS) but get really cross when DS is asked 'are you sure it is spelled that way ?' or worse 'you are wrong' - yes this really has happened! as if he does not know how to spell his own name ffs. He is nearly 9 btw not tiny

Pronounciation would not bother me as much as spelling. I taught a Katarzyna a few years ago and was not sure I was getting it right (She said it was but I think she was just being polite ) I'm not even entirely sure I could pronounce it right if I knew how to...

However, there is no excuse for bad spelling. Maybe phone the HT and get them to raise it with the teacher

Just correct it in red! I did that once and the teacher put a smiley on it...she never got it wrong again...I think she appreciated the joke.

it would irk,and i would point error out to them

It's not even difficult names it happens with.

I've spent my whole life having people spell my name Alexander instead of Alexandra.

I've given up.

I have the opposite problem.

Parents can't spell my name right :(

I think YANBU. I am usually known by the short version of my name, which can be spelt with a -y or an -ie. I spell it with a y, always have done, and EVERYONE else in the world, apparently, thinks it should be an ie. I have signed off emails with my name and had it spelt wrongly in the reply even when the original message was quoted in it! People spell it wrong on Facebook when my name is in every single post I make! It's so annoying.

It totally matters!
first or second name it is your childs NAME and it should be pronounced and spelled correctly.

Parents can't spell my name correctly either...

Could your daughter possibly mention it? That way it's not coming from you. Or drop a note into the office saying you're not sure the school records are right as DD's surname is often spelled wrongly and could they please check that the teacher has the correct spelling too.

As a teacher I always checked and double checked names if I had to write them. I once taught 2 children from one family whose surname was Polish (or similar) and consisted of one vowel, along with a combination of lesser-used consonants, z, j, y, etc. By the end of the first year I could spell it, but STILL checked on important documents. By the end of the second year I could spell it without checking. And I can still spell it now although the children are probably at university now!

If your surname isn't THAT obscure, there's no reason for the teacher to be getting it wrong!

scurryfunge has got it. Pass the blame from the teacher to the official records and ask for them to be updated as there seems to have been an error. It avoids embarrassment on the part of the teacher.

Oh, and it does matter, and would wind me up.

YANBU

Speak to the teacher. Even if there is a history, it should be rectified. It's awful seeing the wrong spellings on certificates, school reports etc.

Yes it so matters.... ds's old teacher would sometimes get it right and sometimes get it wrong (missed an 's' off the end) on report day dp handed the report straight back and pointed out it was wrong. Ds's new teacher also got it wrong, so we pointed it out and it is now right! - It's a respect thing in my view, and if you want respect you should give it too....