to think if people want a 3 course meal then don't come to the wedding

[AuntiePickleBottom]

i am having a cold buffet party type food and a dj reception.

some member of my extended family (those you don't hear off for months/years) have said ooohhhh are you not having a sit down meal.....um no i have 2 young children (and even more young neices and nephews) and i prefer to enjoy my day rather than getting them to sit down for over an hour to eat a sit down meal

Its your day and if people don't like it they don't have to come.

Fwiw I think your wedding sounds lovely!

Enjoy your day

Its YOUR wedding, do what the hell you want.

My brother and sister in law, had a fish supper (or whatever you wanted) from the local chippy pre ordered, every plate was cleared unlike other weddings i've been to.

YANBU. If they want a sit down dinner give them names and addresses of nearby restaurants they can go to if they'd like.

And if they don't like - uninvite them!

If you're paying then you are the only person you need to please!

Did she say she didn't want to come then? OP sounds like she just passed a comment

Your day, your way-but to be honest a cold buffett reception would be unappealing to me as a guest. Difference is, I would never presume to comment, close family member getting married or not!

some folk always gump about weddings.ignore em

have a smashing day

yanbu
I think a buffet is so much nicer as you get to mix more.

Why do you think we legged it to Vegas for our wedding ? Ignore them and enjoy!

just out of intrest, why is that deliciousdevilwomen

ooh love a buffet much better than soup, what is effectively a roast dinner with no trimmings and proffita roles (sp)

I just don't like buffetts-especially cold ones as a "main " way of feeding people at a wedding/event. I avoid buffett restaurants on holiday. At my own wedding, we had a sit down wedding breakfast, then a small buffett with hot food later. I think it's the queuing for food. I prefer to be seated and served. Some people prefer a more informal approach, I don't, I guess. However, it is incredibly rude to pass comment about the catering arrangements

I had a hot and cold buffet, no formal meal, just to avoid rows about top tables and all that crap.

Your day, they can like it or lump it.

I think it depends. A lot of my family were coming long distances and staying in hotels to attend our wedding (which we tried very hard to make as cost effective as possible)so we felt we had to serve them a decent meal.

I wentto a buffet at a wedding
there wasn't enough tables and chairs
everyone was sitting down except me and dh who had to stand like outsiders
it was mortifying

i dont even think about the food when im invited to a wedding.i look forward to the day.have a great time!

if it helps i'm not geting married till 5pm so by the time the photos are taking and everyone arrives to the venue it will be approx 6:30 and i would of hoped people would of eaten before the reception

I wouldn't have eaten before but I do love a buffet

YANBU. Sounds much more sensible! We didn't bother with an evening-do at ours and nobody seemed to mind. My family congregated at my mum's, DH's family at his mum's, the youngsters went clubbing, and those who'd travelled could all get back home and didn't have to pay for a hotel. Win - win!

YANBU

I would prefer a buffet tbh. I'm not a fussy eater, but I am vegetarian and sometimes (not always) with proper sit down meals, organisers/caterers seem to think that vegetarians will eat anything without meat in it and that we don't need choice. WE DO!!!! So a buffet is much nicer for me. I'm not a fan of the queueing, but it's a small price to pay to be able to eat food that I actually like.

Though it doesn't actually sound like your relatives have made a huge deal Auntie, so perhaps they aren't actually judging you.

I think they're getting a free meal either way so should be grateful.

Cold buffet is one of my favourites as I actually get some choice - I'm a vegetarian too and our meals are always an afterthought. I understand that I'm a minority but I do appreciate being able to eat along with everyone else. Plus I frickin love buffet food.

Very rude and presumptuous of the commenter, IMO.

freeangeeggs, it was not my intention to be rude.

if i was to do a sit down meal, for vegetarians i would do a main of Vegetarian Moussaka

I don't have enough hands for a buffet. Drink, plate, handbag, kid/someone else annoying. Never enough seats, or someone has taken yours when you finally get back after juggling all of the above.

If your going to "buffet it", then divide up the food and put it onto the individual tables. Mini buffets, as it were. At least you can sit and eat at the same time. Which is always nice.