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Original poster

to think if people want a 3 course meal then don't come to the wedding

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AuntiePickleBottom · 13/11/2010 21:26

i am having a cold buffet party type food and a dj reception.

some member of my extended family (those you don't hear off for months/years) have said ooohhhh are you not having a sit down meal.....um no i have 2 young children (and even more young neices and nephews) and i prefer to enjoy my day rather than getting them to sit down for over an hour to eat a sit down meal

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beebuzzer · 14/11/2010 08:10

ok auntie, if its for the evening only I wouldnt bother with anything more than buffet then. My reception was a lunchtime (after wedding and photos)throughout afternoon hence why we did sit down. Sounds fine to me!

beebuzzer · 14/11/2010 08:11

I like itsallabitquiet's idea of mini buffets though so people get a chance to sit down as well.

Faaamily · 14/11/2010 08:15

YANBU. It's your wedding. Any guest who comments on it is incredibly rude.

Fwiw, I think you are doing it the right way. Let's face it, unless you spend a hell of a lot of money, wedding meals are grim, Holiday-Inn standard roast dinners. Tacksville. And you are always at risk of getting stuck next to some dreadful bore you don't know/want to know. At least with a buffet you get to mingle and have an excuse to get up Grin

WriterofDreams · 14/11/2010 10:36

People will always find something to whinge about where weddings are concerned. No matter what you do you just cannot please everyone, so just go with what you want and ignore ignore ignore!

BTW DH's cousin had a cold buffet at her wedding and it was fab, best wedding meal I've had so far!

taintedpaint · 14/11/2010 11:07

Auntie, I don't think freerange meant you being rude, I assume it was your relative who made the comment. Moussaka sounds lovely to me, but I still think if you have any vegetarians on your guest list (and I'm sure you will) they will have much more appreciation for a buffet.

SkeletonFlowers · 14/11/2010 11:16

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Porcelain · 14/11/2010 11:21

We had a kind of compromise, a hog roast buffet, but full seating (no seating plan though). The MC took people up to the buffet a table at a time.

It was a bit more formal than I had originally imagined, but it was more chilled out than a silver service wedding breakfast, and people could go up for seconds as they wanted, and because there was no fleet of waiting staff rushing around, the kids were still ok to roam.

Showaddywaddy · 14/11/2010 11:30

We had a hogroast too.

I think most people enjoyed it. You helped yourselves to what you wanted, went back if you wanted more. Lots of tables and chairs and semi-pissed people treating the hogroast queue like a conga line. What's not to like?

huddspur · 14/11/2010 11:31

Its your day, you can do what you want.

Showaddywaddy · 14/11/2010 11:32

This was around 4pm and then around 8.30pm they brought the remains of the pig out, lots of breads, cheeses and paté and the now fully pissed conga line didn't even bother trying to queue, just staggered over and tucked in.

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AuntiePickleBottom · 14/11/2010 11:36

a hog roast sound fantastic, may do that along side a buffet

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LoveBeingAMummy · 15/11/2010 06:33

I had a hog roast, it was the one thing I had to have for the reception. Everyone loved it.

Re the buffet, if it's a late wedding then I wouldn't expect a sit down meal. Although I'm not sure it equals less time, by the time you have queued, decided what everything is and what you want it's probably about the same. Why is there always something youwant to go back to cause there us only one plate if it?

Btw please ensue that someone, venue/bridesmaid makes up a couple of plates for you two. With a buffet there is less chance you'll get up there and eat!

emptyshell · 15/11/2010 08:46

I had a no seating plan and more chairs out than there were guests because I knew the family groups would stake out their own corners anyway and then a mixed hot and cold buffet. Was the easiest way to do things since SIL is a picky eater and my step father is vegetarian, my husband and FIL are devout carnivores and love seafood and I hate the stuff!

Just made sure there was stuff for everyone that they'd eat and lots of it - so things like chilli, cold meats, quiche, seafood platters. I'd rather have done that than the usual wedding fayre of a roast dinner that's not the most awesome in the world and is bland and inoffensive so as not to piss anyone off.

On the comment about making up plates for you two... if you've got a best man like we had who was terrified at the thought of his speech - get some one to make sure he's got a plate kept spare for when the pressure's off - our best man spent the meal going whiter and whiter and whiter and only managed to eat AFTER the speeches were over with!

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