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AIBU?

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Original poster

to have complained about this child's top?

174 replies

Lotster · 13/11/2010 17:16

I was in Peacocks yesterday - I know, living the high life! Our nearest town is a bit limited for kids clothing and wanted to get my son some long sleeved tops.

I saw this boys top hanging up and it stopped me in my tracks.

Now, given that this top is for boys aged 1-6 I don't imagine the joke could be aimed at fellow 6 and unders, as they wouldn't get the joke, so surely must be aimed at older children and adults. Which is why I found it made me really uncomfortable. The lady in the shop said she agreed with me, but a friend thought I was being over the top.

So am I being precious or is it really bad taste?

OP posts:

booyhoo · 13/11/2010 20:42

but SM said it far better than i did.

Rollergirl1 · 13/11/2010 20:43

Well of course. That's just the nature of debate isn't it? Why would you give information that doesn't support what you're talking about? Everyone does it. It is the mere act of conversation/argument. Pointing it out doesn't make you clever. So why does everyone feel the need to point it out?

booyhoo · 13/11/2010 20:43

"And this is the tamest bun fight I have ever been in."

i agree tee. i haven't seen one swear word yet. shall i throw one in for good measure?

rofl at OP's versus real dictionary definition.

booyhoo · 13/11/2010 20:44

rollergirl, it is information that does support her point, so you would imagine she would include it at the start.

scottishmummy · 13/11/2010 20:47

pertinent info only recalled when lame pov gets challenged,funny how that happens. surely one would recall an affirmative and agog group of pals when posting

ChippingIn · 13/11/2010 20:47

In the OP she states 'my friend thinks I'm over the top' - now, all of a sudden, there are 3 friends who think she's right...

Yeah right.

Rollergirl1 · 13/11/2010 20:48

Booyhoo: But maybe people suddenly think of things that they think are relevant later? Who made the rule that it all has to be in the OP? Why is it less relevant if it's brought up later? It's all bullshit. Who fucking cares if it was in the OP or not? That's not how RL conversations are conducted. You don't say to someone you're talking with "oh, hold on, you didn't mention this when we first started talking about this, so therefore I am now not taking what you are saying seriously". Things come out whilst talking. It is the act. of. conversation.

booyhoo · 13/11/2010 20:49

yay a swearword. now it's a bunfight!!!

scottishmummy · 13/11/2010 20:51

well,if the op is fluid it suggests pants on fire

booyhoo · 13/11/2010 20:52

if someone is discussing something with me in RL and when i disagree they drop in some more info that would have been obvious to add at the start had it been true then yes i do bloody well say, "right, now you're making shit up. i can't talk to you if you're going to lie" but it is usually only my 5 year old that thinks he can get away with that!

QueenGigantaurofMnet · 13/11/2010 20:56

i think it would be a veryt good top for cildren with Sn.

i think it is sad that adults feel the need to sexcualise everything.

i think it says far more about you than the makers of the t shirt actually

nooka · 13/11/2010 20:57

I don't think that there is anything sexual in that slogan, but I do think it is unnecessarily aggressive (it's a variation on "who do you think you're looking at") as far as I'm concerned, and I'd not buy it. My children are old enough to pick their own clothes now, but I don't get the whole use your children to make a statement approach, or why anyone thinks that their children will be made more cute by a slogan.

Rollergirl1 · 13/11/2010 20:59

Well thank heavens we don't have to talk in RL.

Anyway, i'm off to scoff Stroganoff(?) and chips and watch The Walking Dead. It's been lovely conversing with you people.

Original poster

Lotster · 13/11/2010 21:00

Christ, it is actually taken from the French voyeur, "one who looks".

I can't believe how many of you are so seething and supercilious without good reason!

I must confess I told a lie, I never had a friend tell me I was over the top. I did however have three friends who agreed with me. I was being humble for the sake of a balanced arguement, wish I'd not bothered.

OP posts:

AuntiePickleBottom · 13/11/2010 21:02

lotster i have read tthis thread twice now...and not one time you have said what is offensive about this top

booyhoo · 13/11/2010 21:03

it just gets stranger and stranger.

booyhoo · 13/11/2010 21:03

really rollergirl, you'd love me

goingroundthebend4 · 13/11/2010 21:04

quenntgigantauro

Exactly why i want to buy it ,going have to see if is in my local shops

Nooka ds has that t shirt to i love itsave me having to mutter it.Though dd has no shame and will often say it out loud when people stare at her brother

Rollergirl1 · 13/11/2010 21:18

And so anyway, are you saying that if OP had mentioned she had 3 friends agree with her in her initial post that it would have changed your opinion? No, it wouldn't have. So what are you saying exactly? Perhaps the OP omitted that information to begin with because she thought it might make her sound like she was after agreeance from everyone else rather than actually courting differing opinion? The thing that I don't like and disagree with is that information given later is perceived to be dishonest or a lie. Why should it be?

ChippingIn · 13/11/2010 21:19

I think you are getting confused about which part you lied about...

Not to mention the fact that we are in the UK and not in France - but hey ho, you choose whichever dictionary suits your needs

scottishmummy · 13/11/2010 21:20

well id be less inclined to think pants on fire

theevildead2 · 13/11/2010 21:20

On a teenage sexually aware developed girl (or boy) it would be provacative. This is (as has been mentioned) just a naff way of implying your kid is so goddamned adorable people can't help but look. Most people tend to notice cute kids (although the really cute ones don't need to ask for attention via a tshirt )

booyhoo · 13/11/2010 21:20

"Why should it be?"

erm, have you read OP's latest post? don't think we need to ask why she would need to lie.

ChippingIn · 13/11/2010 21:21

Rollergirl - because if it was true, you'd say 'One friend thinks I'm over the top, 3 others agree - what do you think'.... not say one friend disagrees then invent a few more later on when it suits you....

Rollergirl1 · 13/11/2010 21:23

ChippingIn: Well I know she didn't invent them. But hey, maybe I'm lying too.

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