This is quite a long one so apologies,
It's more of a WWYD really with an AIBU thrown in.
DH has a sis who has 2 dds,we have a ds.
We live about 5 min walk from them,sis lives about 15 min walk away.
Sil has always been the favoured one out of her & dh,things like she has never had to pay any keep & yet dh had to pay 1/2 his monthly wage to them,no biggie it made us save even harder to buy our 1st home together.
When we moved in ils bought us a new bed & it cost £180,when sil moved in with her boyf they paid for their deposit.
We got married & ils told us to hurry up & have dcs,we had infertility issues & eventually had our ds through icsi.
Fast forward some yrs,sil had her 1st dd & the yr after we had ds.The yr after that sil had her 2nd dd.
She split up with their dad & sold her house,she managed to rent a lovely house a few streets away from old house & nearer to the school her eldest dd attends.
They are half living at ils house & do everything for the girls & sil.
They have never babysat ds,when my gd died i asked them to look after ds for me whilst i attented the funeral,they agreed but were waiting outside the social club after the service to give him back to us.
Their house is full of pics of them all on their many days out & luckily ds hasnt noticed yet as they have never taken him anywhere,this is not for a lack of asking on our part.
So the recent events which have really pissed me off are,this week we were picking ds up from school & ils friend asked us if 'she had had it done yet?' we looked at her perplexed & she twigged that we didnt know what she was talking about,turns out mil was in hospital having an op of some sort.
She is not in the best of health so this worried us,when we got home i rung their house phone & asked them to ring us & let us know what was happening as we had heard mil was in hospital.
This was 2 days ago & they havent rung us back.
Yesterday i rung round the local hospitals & eventually found her,her named nurse came to the phone & told me that mil had asked her to tell us she was fine & she couldnt tell us anything else.
On Bonfire Night we went to our community centre for the display & they were all there & never mentioned anything about mil having to go in so we really dont know what has happened.
We have been round to their house but fil wont answer the door,we know he is in as their car is there behind their gates.
There is more background,they dont come to ds bday parties ever yet always go to gds,all the toys in their house are aimed at girls,think pink & glitter (fil loves them to be weak feeble girls who cling to him) they have dont their spare bedroom out as the girls bedroom,again think pink & glitter.
So AweBU to think right then sod you if thats how you want to play it?