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Original poster

To want to cut out a in law from my and DS's life

69 replies

MrsSheen · 11/11/2010 13:13

I have had enough of my sil's violent and threatening behaviour not to mention the serious lies she has told.

AIBU to not want me or DS to have anything to do with her again.
DH agrees with me on this and hasn't really had anything to do with her for years btw

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VinegarTits · 11/11/2010 16:19

you got helpful advice yesterday, but because it wasnt what you wanted to hear, you posted again under another name Hmm

you can namechange and post this thread as many times as you like, my advice will still be the same

Original poster
MrsSheen · 11/11/2010 16:21

I just wanted a different perspective

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Original poster
MrsSheen · 11/11/2010 16:22

I'm sorry vinegar what was you advice again??

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VinegarTits · 11/11/2010 16:23

what by lying? so yesterday she was 16 with adhd and today she is a typical 17 year old

this is called trolling you know? and i should report you to MNHQ

Original poster
MrsSheen · 11/11/2010 16:26

Yeah but i just thought that yesterday thread was focused to much on the ADHD and that is not a factor in this problem.

I wish i never mentioned it, I am very sorry, i didnt think i did anything wrong, i just wanted another perspective on it without the ADHA clouding the advice.

Again every sorry i don't know what came over me i am just desperate for advice

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ShirleyKnot · 11/11/2010 16:29

The ADHD is a factor for crying out loud.

I know it's easier to pretend that she is just a BITCH, but she has a recognised behavoural disorder.

Bloody Hell. Go and read yesterday's thread again - there was advice on there. I've linked it earlier in the thread.

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MrsSheen · 11/11/2010 16:33

She may have a recognised behavoural disorder, but I have had enough of it and dont want it round my DS anymore.

Attually I dont need advice anymore i know exactly what to do and i should of done it years ago.

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ShirleyKnot · 11/11/2010 16:34

Good for you Hmm

VinegarTits · 11/11/2010 16:35

what if you ds develops ADHD? are you going to write him off too?

i suggest you get some good concelling for yourself, and stop coming here trying to get other people to justfy your disgraceful actions, to make yourself feel better

Original poster
MrsSheen · 11/11/2010 16:37

If my DS develops ADHD then i will deal with it because he is my son.

As someone pointed out earlier she has nothing to do with me no why should i have to deal with it.

I aint the one that needs counisling thanks

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VinegarTits · 11/11/2010 16:43

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Original poster
MrsSheen · 11/11/2010 16:46

Why should I am not the one using foul language!!

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Hai1988 · 11/11/2010 16:50

wow whats happened to this thread ! Calm down ladies.

Vinegar what has caused you to react this way?
Do you have someone in your family with ADHD also?

ShirleyKnot · 11/11/2010 16:53

Uh...That has nothing to do with you Hai.

If VT did have a son or daughter with ADHD seing another poster so casually write off a person because of a behavioural disorder would be upsetting, no?

And if not? The OP is still behaving in a shitty manner IMO.

VinegarTits · 11/11/2010 16:55

Hai1988 the OP started a similar thread yesterday and got lots of good advice but choose to ignore it because it wasnt what she wanted to hear

so, she namechanges and changes her story slighty and starts this thread thinking we were all born yesterday and wouldnt notice Hmm

its called trolling

Hai1988 · 11/11/2010 16:55

I was asking and showing my concern Sk.

Did not mean to inter fear Blush

Hai1988 · 11/11/2010 16:59

Ahh I see VT.

But maybe if the previous thread got heated maybe she wanted to start again.

It was stupid, but eh... cant be bothered to get involved

Good luck with what ever happens MRS S hope you find a solution that keeps everyone happy, do not really no what else to say.

droves · 11/11/2010 17:10

mrssheen ....your sil is acting in the way an abused child would lash out. ADHD or not .Sad

I know she is 17 , but often abused kids take longer to "grow up" , because the might still be in the abusive situation or because they are frustrated that no-one helped them.

Violenece ,swearing,lying, being "a bitch" could all be a sign that something is very very wrong.

i have an adhd child in my family , and also a brother with it , so i know the difference iykwim. Im sorry but i think something else is the cause and not just the medical side.

I also have nothing but sympathy for you , it is hard to have someone behaving like that around your dc, but bear in mind it might be because your a "safe" person to be around, or she has no one else to help her.

i hope im wrong about this .Sad

2rebecca · 11/11/2010 17:15

If your husband has had nothing to do with her "for years" then why has it suddenly become difficult to avoid her?
I would leave this up to your husband and just not contact her.
If your husband decides he wants you all to go to extended family events she will be at then you'll have to discuss it, but I would just back off and only see her when your husband wants to.
If you don't like her then I see no reason to see her just because she is related to your husband, especially if he doesn't want to see her.
She may get more pleasant as she matures.

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