Ok, I'd like some opinions on this one please...
I have a best friend, we share everything and she has had a hard time recently, she is very fragile emotionally and has in the past been depressed and taken medication for PND. She is a single parent with a 5 yr old dd and has no family and few real friends She has recently told me she has met a man - I'm very very happy for her as she has been very lonely recently.
They work together, she says he is very kind, polite and quite quiet. Apparently he seems like a bit of a "loner" and doesn't share much about his private life at work - fair enough I thought, lots of people are like that. She went on her first date with him which went very well, they had fun and she says he went on and on about how much he likes her, has fancied her for ages etc. Then he bombarded her with lovely texts and calls. The next date they went on he was so different. Not at all tactile, very quiet, not affectionate etc.
He has told her today that he has mental health issues. That he is bi-polar and suffers from severe mood swings. Now I appreciate a huge proportion of adults will suffer from mental health problems and this in itself isn't a reason not to have a relationship with someone - of course! However, he has also said he doesn't take medication as he doesn't think it helps him. That he sometimes just has to stay at home and doesn't want to do anything but sleep and be alone for days on end. He also admits to her that he has a terrible temper and when in a depressive state he has been known to be aggressive and throw things, smash things etc.
She has asked me what she should do and I have asked her to be very wary of this man. Not becasue he has mental health issues but because she is very vulnerable and emotionally unstable herself and I can see her getting very hurt. Also, that I see it as unwise to have someone who is basically a stranger who admits he has violent tendencies around a 5 yr old child.
AIBU? I am basically discriminating against someone because they have MH issues and I can't decide if I am justified in my advice that I have given her or not. I admit I have very little experience of bi-polar as a condition and would very much appreciate some opinions and perhaps someone with any advice I can pass on to her...