to ban DH from pooing in the hotel room?

[quicksand]

DH thinks so, I disagree.

In Thailand (on honeymoon!), 'design hotel' for part of the trip - very nice but there wasn't a proper bathroom door, sort of curvy glass everywhere. The toilet was discretely tucked out of sight but not fully enclosed in anything.

DH's poo is soooo stinky and he's one of those lucky people who craps at least once a day. I'm really not so perhaps I have unrealistic expecations BUT after a day of being gassed while in bed (killed the honeymoon mood), asked DH to go to the lobby area when he had to crap and poo in the loo there instead.

He agreed as even he could appreciate that the unaccustomed cuisine was having an effect. It was great!

HOWEVER I have now extended this request to all hotel stays, which DH says is freakish and bizarre. If he has to go then fine, okay, I'll cope, ditto if we're heading out or there's a window we can open safely or whatever but there have been times I've said "please don't shit in the bathroom unless you have to" - always teeny tiny hotel rooms or places the windows aren't usable - and it is becoming A Thing.

On the James May programme this evening they said something about women never pooing on holiday and DH made an arch comment about my poo ban and said nobody in their right mind would do what I do soooo...

AIBU?

quicksand, have you been to Germany?

Heartsease, yes I have, I spend a fair amount of time in a Major German City actually - not seen many of the 'poo on a tray' loos though!

quicksand - you sound like a control freak. Poor Mr QS.

GET OVER IT.

We went for a short break to a Major German City v. early in our relationship. The poo tray was not spoken of till years later.

YANBU
DH's shit is TOXIC and smells for AGES and SPREADS. If we have an en suite on holiday he waits til I'm done before using. We lived in a tiny studio flat for a while, the main reason I had to leave was because the bathroom and bedroom windows faced in on a tiny courtyard, so the bathroom smell came tight in the bedroom. DH's can overpower airfreshener.

In a bathroom such as the one in the OP, there is NO WAY DH would be pooing in it.

I think all you people thinking this is weird and controlling have Ps with normal poo function. I mean, mine don't smell lovely, but unless I'm ill they can be hidden with a squirt of oust and clear in 5 minutes. DH eats too much meat (IMO) and his can permeate a whole house, mingling with the oust fragrance, for AGES. It really is vile.
Obviously I don't put stipulations on his pooing at home (short of not right before I have a bath) that would be unreasonable. But in a bedroom with no proper door or ventilation? You just can't imagine

I am with you.

However, the reason you have to take such a step is because of your husbands lack of self insight,sense of smell and consideration.

I honestly thought any normal considerate person would do this out of courtesy to others. Dh does. He never poos in the campervan, he goes to the campsite toilets. On holiday at my sister, he will take himself off to the communal toilet in the apartment building, and use the lobby in the hotel, or at a pub/restaurant. A poo very rarely come as a surprise (and if it does, it is usually because you are a bit unwell and that is different) it is perfectly possible to time it so you go on in the lobby upon coming back, etc.

Honestly guys, you lot make it sound like a poo is totally uncontrollable, and come as a surprise every time.

I wouldn't be able to "go" if banished to public toilets!

I need privacy. I have trouble if DH is even in the house. I must have Bashful Bowels.

Frequently I find myself having to sprint up the stairs as his car drives off on a Monday morning, as if my insides know: We Are Alone Now.

Restaurant loo with people tramping in and out being able to hear every splash and . . . ? < faints with mortification >

you can't tell someone when to have a poo!!

MmeLindt, my DH subscribes to the same 'flush quick' theory! (Did they learn it in science at school?) Doesn't save us from toxic farts at Meaningful Moments however.

YABVU.

I must add my DH doesn't have fragrant poo, but I'd never tell him not to poo where he wanted. (within reason )

"you can't tell someone when to have a poo!!"

No but the onus should be on the poo-er to do it considerately!

Hmmm. Can you buy a small air cleaner, and some candles? www.heavenfresh.ca/Personal-Ionic-Air-Purifier-HF-85

YABU. Agree take air freshener and postphone your bath by 20 mins if necessary.
If I announced I was having a bath and husband then said he wanted to use the toilet I would expect him to go to hotel lobby if he wanted a poo as in that case I'd feel I got my claim for the bathroom in first and he should have gone earlier if he wanted a poo. He knows not to do this if at home.

This one is probably more effective. www.heavenfresh.co.uk/Ionic-Air-Purifier-HF-200 and there are tons on other sites too.
www.shopwiki.com/travel+air+purifiers

I have Bashful Bowels too. I can only poo in locations I feel 'safe'. I can poo at home, at my parents' house and in a hotel - after a few days. Rarely can I poo in a hotel on the first day we stay there, so when I do go it's vile. My DH understands this, and accepts me for who I am (smelly poo and all). If he told me I had to go to a public loo to poo, I wouldn't be able to, and I have had problems in the past where I haven't pooed for a fair few days (usually at least once a day) and I end up feeling quite poorly.

So, either I poo and we enjoy the holiday, or I don't poo and I'm unwell for the holiday.

To be honest, if you're in the room for a while you'd become immune to the smell and stop noticing it!

Galena - I suspect that's part of what the Bowel and Bladder Federation told me about holding it in being bad for you.

Btw, anyone who is offended by their partner's smelly poos - have you tried striking a match? Very effective IME.