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AIBU?

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Original poster

to feel a little hurt and offended

49 replies

numotre · 05/11/2010 09:13

When me and DH go out, we always get my brother to babysit dd and we pay him. I found out yesterday that he doesn't charge my other sisters to look after their dc. Of his 3 sisters he only charges me, AIBU to feel hurt by this.

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Mammie81 · 05/11/2010 09:16

If hes anything like my brother, he'll take what he can get and hope the 3 of you dont converse!

Cheeky bugger! Next time he babysits, just give him a cup of tea and the remote control for the evening!

Casmama · 05/11/2010 09:18

Maybe you offered and they didn't and he was embarrassed to ask them but happily takes the money from you because it is expected. I wouldn't take it personally. Ask him about it if it bothers you

diddl · 05/11/2010 09:20

Does he charge you or do you pay iyswim?

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numotre · 05/11/2010 09:23

When I first asked him to start doing it, he said he wanted paying which I thought was fair enough but it seems he didn't want paying to look after my DNs.

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SuePurblybilt · 05/11/2010 09:23

Ask him.

badfairy · 05/11/2010 09:40

Yeh ask him

Chil1234 · 05/11/2010 09:42

LOL! That boy will go far :) I agree with Mammie81, he's been chancing it that you don't confer. Call him out on the con but give him 10 out of 10 for brass neck.

mistressploppy · 05/11/2010 09:42

That's a bit odd. Are you further away?

ShatnersBassoon · 05/11/2010 09:43

I would ask him if you're paying the same as the other sisters. Perhaps there is some arrangement whereby your sisters square up by doing jobs for him in return.

CrazyPlateLady · 05/11/2010 09:43

I have babysat my siblings soo much over the years. It wouldn't occure to me to charge family at all. I would tell him to get on his bike!!

ENormaSnob · 05/11/2010 09:46

IMO it's your other sisters not paying that is unreasonable.

How old is db?

My teen bil occasionaly sits and I wouldn't dream of not giving him some cash for it.

Animation · 05/11/2010 09:51

He should be paid really to babysit. Why aren't the others paying him - do they take advantage of him?

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numotre · 05/11/2010 09:53

He's 14 and he only lives half a mile away.

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FIMBOfedupofrandomfireworks · 05/11/2010 09:56

Are you the eldest? Do you have more cash than the others?

He's only 14, I think you are being a little bit unreasonable. Maybe you could tell your others sisters you pay him and they will start doing likewise.

badfairy · 05/11/2010 09:57

If he's only 14 I would say your sisters are definitely taking advantage whilst you are doing the honourable thing...poor kid

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numotre · 05/11/2010 09:57

No I'm the youngest and the poorest of the 3

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Mammie81 · 05/11/2010 09:58

Aw, hes only 14. Hes obviously seen this as a cash making enterprise. I bet your sisters didnt entertain paying him but you did, thats all. Dont be offended, my little brother is a total rascal too Wink

PaisleyLeaf · 05/11/2010 10:00

I also think that it's your sisters who are not paying him who are BU.

ShatnersBassoon · 05/11/2010 10:00

He's only 14? Your sisters should be made to pay the poor lad. Have a word with them, he must be too scared to ask.

SlartyBartFast · 05/11/2010 10:02

agree, have a word with them!
why arent they paying.
they definatley should be

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numotre · 05/11/2010 10:04

My sister who told me said that he always says that he is glad to spend time with his nephew

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Animation · 05/11/2010 10:07

I think your sisters are the naughty rascals - not your brother.

BrainMash · 05/11/2010 10:09

Awww...he's only 14. I bet he thinks you're the nice sister because you're the only one who pays him. Give him a few quid and don't worry about it - and tell your other sisters to cough up! Smile

CrazyPlateLady · 05/11/2010 10:09

I was babysitting my 3 siblings who were 8, 4 and 3 when I was 13. I used to look after my youngest sister from the age of 15 and have her for the day if her mum was working. I never got paid. I wouldn't think of paying my siblings if they babysat DS either. It seems odd.

badfairy · 05/11/2010 10:10

Yes it sounds like your sister is having a bit of a stir ..... At the end of the day I would feel bad not paying my 14 year old brother for looking after my children regardless of what my siblings were doing.