to feel a little hurt and offended

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When me and DH go out, we always get my brother to babysit dd and we pay him. I found out yesterday that he doesn't charge my other sisters to look after their dc. Of his 3 sisters he only charges me, AIBU to feel hurt by this.

If hes anything like my brother, he'll take what he can get and hope the 3 of you dont converse!

Cheeky bugger! Next time he babysits, just give him a cup of tea and the remote control for the evening!

Maybe you offered and they didn't and he was embarrassed to ask them but happily takes the money from you because it is expected. I wouldn't take it personally. Ask him about it if it bothers you

Does he charge you or do you pay iyswim?

When I first asked him to start doing it, he said he wanted paying which I thought was fair enough but it seems he didn't want paying to look after my DNs.

Ask him.

Yeh ask him

LOL! That boy will go far :) I agree with Mammie81, he's been chancing it that you don't confer. Call him out on the con but give him 10 out of 10 for brass neck.

That's a bit odd. Are you further away?

I would ask him if you're paying the same as the other sisters. Perhaps there is some arrangement whereby your sisters square up by doing jobs for him in return.

I have babysat my siblings soo much over the years. It wouldn't occure to me to charge family at all. I would tell him to get on his bike!!

IMO it's your other sisters not paying that is unreasonable.

How old is db?

My teen bil occasionaly sits and I wouldn't dream of not giving him some cash for it.

He should be paid really to babysit. Why aren't the others paying him - do they take advantage of him?

He's 14 and he only lives half a mile away.

Are you the eldest? Do you have more cash than the others?

He's only 14, I think you are being a little bit unreasonable. Maybe you could tell your others sisters you pay him and they will start doing likewise.

If he's only 14 I would say your sisters are definitely taking advantage whilst you are doing the honourable thing...poor kid

No I'm the youngest and the poorest of the 3

Aw, hes only 14. Hes obviously seen this as a cash making enterprise. I bet your sisters didnt entertain paying him but you did, thats all. Dont be offended, my little brother is a total rascal too

I also think that it's your sisters who are not paying him who are BU.

He's only 14? Your sisters should be made to pay the poor lad. Have a word with them, he must be too scared to ask.

agree, have a word with them!
why arent they paying.
they definatley should be

My sister who told me said that he always says that he is glad to spend time with his nephew

I think your sisters are the naughty rascals - not your brother.

Awww...he's only 14. I bet he thinks you're the nice sister because you're the only one who pays him. Give him a few quid and don't worry about it - and tell your other sisters to cough up!

I was babysitting my 3 siblings who were 8, 4 and 3 when I was 13. I used to look after my youngest sister from the age of 15 and have her for the day if her mum was working. I never got paid. I wouldn't think of paying my siblings if they babysat DS either. It seems odd.

Yes it sounds like your sister is having a bit of a stir ..... At the end of the day I would feel bad not paying my 14 year old brother for looking after my children regardless of what my siblings were doing.