Genuines question re YR4 teacher getting the whole class

[PosieComeHereMyPreciousParker]

to call my ds a 'dipstick'.

So context, DS1 didn't know how to use the PC/board pen and forgot to click it so he did it all wrong. (He isn't the sharpest pencil in the box when it comes to school work, no great interest and a very late starter, no SN just average boy really and so part of the AIBU is tied in with me worrying about this). When his mistake became apparent his teacher said Thomas(namechange) you dipstick, everybody say Thoooomassssssss iiiiiiiiiiiisssssssss aaaaaaaa diiippsttiickkkk.....in the way that children say the register/talk in assembly.

DS1 came home and said it ruined his day. He divulged later that teacher calls other children dipstick too. Teacher is highly committed, a little stressy, fun, well liked by parents and staff alike....except for his regular absence around parents evening.

DS1 is my PFB and probably not well equipped to deal with this level of piss taking.

Do I just deal with DS, not making a fuss, or would I BU to speak to the teacher? I don't want to undermine him or put a spanner in the works.

Should I just lighten up?

(If this was ds2 who finds school a breeze and loves it I know I would feel differently.)

YANBU.

A teacher made my son cry. I told the DH and the teacher was made to apologise to my son.

I did notice his deferring blame to my son';s sensitivity which is why I headed it off with comments about name calling, I'm pretty sure he was under no illusion that I thought he was to blame and not my sons disposition!!!

As a teacher, I find that totally unacceptable. He should be made to apologise to you, then to your son in front of the class. That is not humour, that is bullying.

I have just been chatting to a friend and she thinks his teaching is old fashioned and uses humiliation and ridicule? wtf? (her child is now at secondary school) He called a boy lighbulb and the class made up a song about him, the boy loved it apparently.

Am rather at the threats of violence/storming up to the school to sort him out. Really??

The teacher made a mistake and he's learnt from it. He, the Head and Posie in particular dealt with the issue very well.

So,the teacher had already apologised to your son and you felt like you needed an apology too? Why? Hadn't it already been sorted out? Do you not think you are the passive aggressive bully for meeting with this teacher?

dex.....wtf? The teacher had apologised during the school day and I had been asked to see him after school.