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"You just crashed into me"!

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BookcaseFullofBooks · 04/11/2010 13:22

I know I'm being over sensitive but was walking in town and a passed a woman who then gave me a funny look. I looked back and she said the above. I replied no I didn't and she said "you brushed my hand". Now I feel really wound up and am sitting in Starbucks wanting to cry.

I realise I'm completely over reacting but feel horrible. Maybe the wrong place to post this.

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scurryfunge · 04/11/2010 13:25

She probably has OCD and can't bear contact with the outside world. I'd have said "oh, sorry" regardless of whether I had bumped into her or not.

Don't worry, it really is a minor thing.

lorelilee · 04/11/2010 13:25

Have you other things on your mind? - that sounds like a complete over-reaction to an almost 'nothing' incident.

TheProvincialLady · 04/11/2010 13:25

What is the worst case scenario? That you accidentally knocked into her/brushed her slightly and didn't notice (so it could not have been very serious). That doesn't sound very terrible.

What is bothering you? Did the woman scare you? Do you feel clumsy? Something else?

CocoPopsAddict · 04/11/2010 13:25

Surely you 'crashed into' each other? God, don't worry about it.

ZZZenAgain · 04/11/2010 13:27

did she say it in a really nasty way?

AppleHEAD · 04/11/2010 13:28

No your not she is a silly old bat! Just ignore her she is probably having a horrible day and tool it out on you. Fuxk her! Have a piece of cake or six and don't worry.

ZZZenAgain · 04/11/2010 13:28

brushing her hand doesn't sound like anything very dramatic

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BookcaseFullofBooks · 04/11/2010 13:28

You're right. I do have other things going on. It just felt confrontational and in those cases I either go on the attack or crawl into a corner.

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BookcaseFullofBooks · 04/11/2010 13:29

She said it as if I had knocked her over.

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ZZZenAgain · 04/11/2010 13:30

I've been elbowed in the ribs, knocked off balance. She should try living some of the places I've lived. Sounds OTT to me.

Could you have said, "I'm sorry I genuinely didn't notice", something like that?

Chil1234 · 04/11/2010 13:30

And it's entirely for this kind of situation that God invented expletives and strong drink... If it ever happens again, tell the crashing, hand-brusher to f* off.

TheProvincialLady · 04/11/2010 13:34

In that case, stop internalising HER over reaction and HER problem. YOU did nothing wrong and SHE did.

thesunshinesbrightly · 04/11/2010 13:56

A woman bashed into me and she had this really hard object in her bag she accussed me of nearly breaking it! well you can guess what my answer was.

Take no notice she is obviously a nutter.

HonestyBox · 04/11/2010 14:03

I feel like this sometimes and I have major depression that I am now managing to bring under control. It is amazing how something small can just throw you off balance. Perhaps you are just feeling very sensitive today but if you are feeling depressed please try and get some help. I have been there and I know it's horrible.

Psammead · 04/11/2010 14:03

If it makes you feel better, I once was giving directions to someone in an indoor shopping centre. I gestured with my hand and slapped a passing woman fully around the head. I ran after her, apologising my arse off but she wasn't interested. I think she thought I was a bit mental.

Lady - if you are reading this and remember getting smacked around the head about ten years ago by a teenager in Bluewater - my humblest apologies.

OP - don't sweat it. These things happen.

mountainmonkey · 04/11/2010 14:08

That's the kind of thing that would upset me but then I am a sensitive soul! Don't let it get you down- its her problem.

FranSanDisco · 04/11/2010 14:11

I'd have said 'I didn't but if you want to to just keep standing there and I'll crash into you properly'. Silly old moo! Like to woman who asked me to stop ds 3 yo from swinging his legs on a chair in a shop in case he hit her son 'I'm frightened he'll hurt him'. Her son was about 10 yo. MAd as a box of frogs I tell you!

FranSanDisco · 04/11/2010 14:14

Psammead, pmsl - hillarious stuff Grin.

Eleison · 04/11/2010 14:15

Bookcase, I am capable of being just as upset as you are now by this sort of incident. I understand totally how you feel. You have no good reason to feel bad about what happened. The other woman was wrong, and you don't need to care what she thinks. I hope that this thread, and the elapse of time, are helping you to finish feeling crap about it.

QuintessentialShadows · 04/11/2010 14:16

Take no notice.

I was standing in a queue in a supermarket, when a trolley got bashed into my ankles. I turn around, and a really angry woman hissed at me "look where you are going you stupid c*nt"

HotchpotchHoney · 04/11/2010 14:19

Psammead - i really did LOL at that. Now everyone in the office know i'm mn'ing and not working! Blush

Serendippy · 04/11/2010 14:19

YABU to be upset. You may have brushed her hand without noticing but it doesn't matter. I wouldn't even have registered if she had said this to me, would just have said, 'Oh, sorry, I didn't realise' and walked on without a second thought. Hope whatever is making you overemotional gets sorted.

RunawayRocket · 04/11/2010 14:29

She was a loon dont worry about it

ragged · 04/11/2010 14:35

LOL @ Quintess's story about her misplaced ankles.

Ormirian · 04/11/2010 14:39

Best response to that is to apologise profusely, ask repeatedly if she needs to sit down, or perhaps offer to find her a glass of water. Make a real fuss until she realises what a twat she is being Grin

BTW it would have thrown me too.